Hello all,
As you might remember, I was worried about going a trip to Mexico with two other couples. We didn't want to leave difficult child alone in our house due to problems we had last year when we left her alone when we went on vacation.
difficult child has found a place to stay while we are gone. She is going to stay with the family of her bff who has taken her in before. The mom asked to talk with me and we discussed difficult child's DBT treatment and her early stage of recovery. I made it clear that difficult child should not be drinking any alcohol and the mom agreed and said she would talk to her daughters about it (they were the ones telling difficult child that she just needed to learn to drink in moderation). She also said that she would expect difficult child to be at their house any time she wasn't working or going to therapy.
Ironically, she dislikes difficult child's loser boyfriend (Peter Pan) even more than I do and didn't sound happy about letting difficult child spend the night at his house. I told her I was fine if she wanted to tell difficult child she couldn't do that while we were gone.
So I feel comfortable going on the trip. I am heading off to difficult child's salon in a little while so difficult child can airbrush spray tan me. She has been taught how to do that and already has several regular clients. She laughingly told me that the owner told her that she should write on my back a message that says we should have taken difficult child with us. I told her that I was going to check out my back in the mirror before I left the salon. LOL
difficult child seems to be doing well. She hasn't missed any DBT sessions and gets up and off to work by herself. She has talked to me about some of the things that she and her therapist have talked about. She said that she wants to work on honesty since she knows that has been one of her biggest issues in the past. She talked about being totally self-sufficient someday and the therapist said that she should work on small goals that will build skills that she will need in the future to be self-sufficient. This week she said she is going to work on laundry and cleaning up her room.
She has also been turning over the money from her paycheck and we are working on budgeting. She gets paid weekly so I showed her the envelope method where she divides her bills into 4 payments and puts 1/4th of the money in an envelope each week. She hasn't been making enough money to pay her bills and DBT yet but she is going to start working more hours starting next week.
We are still dealing with anxiety issues. Her DBT therapist has suggested biofeedback to help with the anxiety. I looked it up and it looks interesting. Anyone else ever used biofeedback?
~Kathy
As you might remember, I was worried about going a trip to Mexico with two other couples. We didn't want to leave difficult child alone in our house due to problems we had last year when we left her alone when we went on vacation.
difficult child has found a place to stay while we are gone. She is going to stay with the family of her bff who has taken her in before. The mom asked to talk with me and we discussed difficult child's DBT treatment and her early stage of recovery. I made it clear that difficult child should not be drinking any alcohol and the mom agreed and said she would talk to her daughters about it (they were the ones telling difficult child that she just needed to learn to drink in moderation). She also said that she would expect difficult child to be at their house any time she wasn't working or going to therapy.
Ironically, she dislikes difficult child's loser boyfriend (Peter Pan) even more than I do and didn't sound happy about letting difficult child spend the night at his house. I told her I was fine if she wanted to tell difficult child she couldn't do that while we were gone.
So I feel comfortable going on the trip. I am heading off to difficult child's salon in a little while so difficult child can airbrush spray tan me. She has been taught how to do that and already has several regular clients. She laughingly told me that the owner told her that she should write on my back a message that says we should have taken difficult child with us. I told her that I was going to check out my back in the mirror before I left the salon. LOL
difficult child seems to be doing well. She hasn't missed any DBT sessions and gets up and off to work by herself. She has talked to me about some of the things that she and her therapist have talked about. She said that she wants to work on honesty since she knows that has been one of her biggest issues in the past. She talked about being totally self-sufficient someday and the therapist said that she should work on small goals that will build skills that she will need in the future to be self-sufficient. This week she said she is going to work on laundry and cleaning up her room.
She has also been turning over the money from her paycheck and we are working on budgeting. She gets paid weekly so I showed her the envelope method where she divides her bills into 4 payments and puts 1/4th of the money in an envelope each week. She hasn't been making enough money to pay her bills and DBT yet but she is going to start working more hours starting next week.
We are still dealing with anxiety issues. Her DBT therapist has suggested biofeedback to help with the anxiety. I looked it up and it looks interesting. Anyone else ever used biofeedback?
~Kathy
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