wife is still doing great with the detachment since the night of July 14th/15th, ironically the same day I started a thread (click here to see it) about her struggling with it. I think that the events of that night were the catalyst for wife to really switch back out of helping mode and back into detachment mode, which was kind of where we were at 20 months ago before difficult child was at home this last time, with this difference: next time difficult child needs a place to stay while waiting for a bed or waiting for a spot at a sober house, it won't be at our house. Helping with detaching is the fact that we haven't heard from difficult child for the past three weeks, not even on her 28th birthday which was just a few days ago. We did learn that her ex-sponsor, who picked her up when she had her meltdown and got kicked out of Erica's, dropped her off the following day at the home/crash pad of one of her druggie acquaintances. This after she refused a ride to the local homeless shelter. She left a message on Erica's phone about two weeks ago. (Erica is the girlfriend whose house difficult child squatted at for seven weeks after we kicked her out.) difficult child demanded payment for babysitting and helping with Erica's "business" (which is one of those Ponzi schemes you see on late-night paid TV shows: "Get rich dealing real estate from your home in just a few hours a month! I made $20,000 the first month!") and said she didn't care that she damaged Erica's truck since Erica owed her, in fact she was glad she messed up the truck and wished she'd totaled it. easy child 1 doesn't ask about difficult child much. We try to be fairly honest without getting into the details. We said that difficult child has a problem from drinking alcohol too much, and that makes her forget stuff she is supposed to do and break promises. We pray for her at bedtime.