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Update: Relinquished son in jail AGAIN, daughter doing better...
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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 229682" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>Change, having adopted a Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) child, I so understand your pain and your anger. Like you, I was told nothing about attachment issues and just how damaged the child could be. I was lucky that she is a girl and girls do exhibit Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) symptoms differently from boys. I was even luckier that I did a lot of things right by sheer luck. It certainly wasn't because I was told how to parent a Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) child. What was luckiest for me, though, was the simple fact that there was a part of my little one that wanted to love and be loved. That went a long way in helping her survive. She still has Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD), is still manipulative and still expects to get her way regardless.</p><p> </p><p>Please know that you did the right thing. Not just for you but also for your daughter. Your son, sadly, is beyond your help. He is going to need a lot more than you could ever give him just to be semi-functioning in this world. He has shown sociopathic tendencies from almost the beginning. None of this is your fault or his fault. It is the fault of those who raised him and a system that failed him.</p><p> </p><p>If you desire, there's no reason why you can't have an outside relationship with him. Talk to him on the phone if you want. See him in juvie if it makes you feel better. However, do be prepared if he uses your kindness against you. The reality is that he is a very dangerous teen and will probably only become more so as he ages. However, for now, do what is best for you and yours.</p><p> </p><p>I'm sorry he's in juvie but, quite honestly, at least your daughter and other children are safe from him, as harsh as that sounds.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 229682, member: 3626"] Change, having adopted a Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) child, I so understand your pain and your anger. Like you, I was told nothing about attachment issues and just how damaged the child could be. I was lucky that she is a girl and girls do exhibit Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) symptoms differently from boys. I was even luckier that I did a lot of things right by sheer luck. It certainly wasn't because I was told how to parent a Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) child. What was luckiest for me, though, was the simple fact that there was a part of my little one that wanted to love and be loved. That went a long way in helping her survive. She still has Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD), is still manipulative and still expects to get her way regardless. Please know that you did the right thing. Not just for you but also for your daughter. Your son, sadly, is beyond your help. He is going to need a lot more than you could ever give him just to be semi-functioning in this world. He has shown sociopathic tendencies from almost the beginning. None of this is your fault or his fault. It is the fault of those who raised him and a system that failed him. If you desire, there's no reason why you can't have an outside relationship with him. Talk to him on the phone if you want. See him in juvie if it makes you feel better. However, do be prepared if he uses your kindness against you. The reality is that he is a very dangerous teen and will probably only become more so as he ages. However, for now, do what is best for you and yours. I'm sorry he's in juvie but, quite honestly, at least your daughter and other children are safe from him, as harsh as that sounds. [/QUOTE]
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