Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Update: Sort of...
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 576646" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>I'm so sorry. Your poor DS is hurting. What a mean thing for your husband to do. You may want to try to explain to him, when he is ready that even though his dad said all of that, it is his dad's issue with control and needing things to be a certain way, that the problem lies with his dad not him. I had to explain to my granddaughter many times, I said it over and over, that her dad's suicide and her mom's mental illness have nothing to do with her, that is their trip, their choices. I would start telling him gently, how his dad can't cope, not badmouthing his dad but explaining to him that it's not his fault his dad left. That you are all now better off living without all that control, that dad did that to you too. He's old enough to know what the truth is and it isn't his fault, it's his dad's problem, he needs to have someone let him know that, if you haven't already done that. I'm so sorry that you are dealing with the aftermath of your husband's insanity. But your love for your kids will guide you through. Stay strong, stay the course. Keep posting. We're here for you. (((HUGS))))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 576646, member: 13542"] I'm so sorry. Your poor DS is hurting. What a mean thing for your husband to do. You may want to try to explain to him, when he is ready that even though his dad said all of that, it is his dad's issue with control and needing things to be a certain way, that the problem lies with his dad not him. I had to explain to my granddaughter many times, I said it over and over, that her dad's suicide and her mom's mental illness have nothing to do with her, that is their trip, their choices. I would start telling him gently, how his dad can't cope, not badmouthing his dad but explaining to him that it's not his fault his dad left. That you are all now better off living without all that control, that dad did that to you too. He's old enough to know what the truth is and it isn't his fault, it's his dad's problem, he needs to have someone let him know that, if you haven't already done that. I'm so sorry that you are dealing with the aftermath of your husband's insanity. But your love for your kids will guide you through. Stay strong, stay the course. Keep posting. We're here for you. (((HUGS)))) [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Update: Sort of...
Top