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<blockquote data-quote="Lil" data-source="post: 682094" data-attributes="member: 17309"><p>Good Heaven's I'm not raising anyone! I don't even KNOW his friend, have met him 3-4 times, but he's nearly THIRTY! And I don't like him. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite4" alt=":mad:" title="Mad :mad:" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":mad:" /> At his age he has NO more excuses other than being a user and a loser. He came up here before and didn't help out. Granted, it was winter and they were in a miserable, cockroach infested, one-room efficiency, with other bums...but still! I had a bad feeling about him coming from the beginning.</p><p> </p><p>No, our son has been told, our help is done...and perhaps if his friend knows that my son can no longer count on us for help, he'll finally get to work. The girlfriend too. She's worked maybe a month and she's been here since Thanksgiving. There's no excuse for it. I told her, I know being dependent on the bus limits you, but there is work! There is work walking distance - an easy walk - from their apartment. Hell, I walked farther than that today from my parking spot!!!</p><p> </p><p>If we get a chance, we'll tell them ourselves. Our son said, "Mom, that'll just make it worse." HOW? How can it be worse to have us say, "No more help" to his friends?</p><p> </p><p>Eh...whatever. This is the only bill. We've bought the last of any substantial amounts of groceries. The friend gets food stamps and they can do the food pantries.</p><p> </p><p></p><p> </p><p>I do agree. Not as far as we'd like and not as fast, but he has made progress. Heck, when we put him out - 18 months ago! - he wouldn't think of working at all. He pawned things and begged from us and mooched off anyone he could. That he's held his current job since November is something of a miracle really. This is the first time he's asked for help on a bill, although he's begged groceries a few times and a few dollars for work lunches...but not bills. Of course, the result is that he has an electric bill that's at disconnect. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /></p><p> </p><p>Still...he is better than he was. We have to admit that. That was the main reason we agreed to pay...to give him time to get done with these guys. If it were disconnected now, they'd likely just leave and then he would just be "abandoned" rather than standing up for himself. Basically, we're giving him time to take control himself. </p><p> </p><p>Praying it works.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lil, post: 682094, member: 17309"] Good Heaven's I'm not raising anyone! I don't even KNOW his friend, have met him 3-4 times, but he's nearly THIRTY! And I don't like him. :mad: At his age he has NO more excuses other than being a user and a loser. He came up here before and didn't help out. Granted, it was winter and they were in a miserable, cockroach infested, one-room efficiency, with other bums...but still! I had a bad feeling about him coming from the beginning. No, our son has been told, our help is done...and perhaps if his friend knows that my son can no longer count on us for help, he'll finally get to work. The girlfriend too. She's worked maybe a month and she's been here since Thanksgiving. There's no excuse for it. I told her, I know being dependent on the bus limits you, but there is work! There is work walking distance - an easy walk - from their apartment. Hell, I walked farther than that today from my parking spot!!! If we get a chance, we'll tell them ourselves. Our son said, "Mom, that'll just make it worse." HOW? How can it be worse to have us say, "No more help" to his friends? Eh...whatever. This is the only bill. We've bought the last of any substantial amounts of groceries. The friend gets food stamps and they can do the food pantries. I do agree. Not as far as we'd like and not as fast, but he has made progress. Heck, when we put him out - 18 months ago! - he wouldn't think of working at all. He pawned things and begged from us and mooched off anyone he could. That he's held his current job since November is something of a miracle really. This is the first time he's asked for help on a bill, although he's begged groceries a few times and a few dollars for work lunches...but not bills. Of course, the result is that he has an electric bill that's at disconnect. :( Still...he is better than he was. We have to admit that. That was the main reason we agreed to pay...to give him time to get done with these guys. If it were disconnected now, they'd likely just leave and then he would just be "abandoned" rather than standing up for himself. Basically, we're giving him time to take control himself. Praying it works. [/QUOTE]
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