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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 238135" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>That is really good news! husband is following through (at last) and the benefits will be long-term, if he can keep this up. And if you can keep it up too.</p><p></p><p>Also great news about DSS's progress. Have you told him how pleased you are with his improvement? husband especially needs to tell him this. You give praise where it's due, even if you have to really look for oppotunities. Make the prase specific ("I am so proud of you for having improved your tests results, you must have really been concetrating hard.") You don't refer to anything negative in the same breath, either. Don't "connect" things. A bad thing is a bad thing, a good thing is a good thing. They cna be separate (should be).</p><p></p><p>What I mean is, you don't say to him, "I'm pleased with your test results, you did really well. I just can't understand how a boy who is supposed to be bright could forget to feed the dog."</p><p></p><p>Keep the issues apart. That way the praise can be unconditional.</p><p></p><p>You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar.</p><p></p><p>Great progress so far!</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 238135, member: 1991"] That is really good news! husband is following through (at last) and the benefits will be long-term, if he can keep this up. And if you can keep it up too. Also great news about DSS's progress. Have you told him how pleased you are with his improvement? husband especially needs to tell him this. You give praise where it's due, even if you have to really look for oppotunities. Make the prase specific ("I am so proud of you for having improved your tests results, you must have really been concetrating hard.") You don't refer to anything negative in the same breath, either. Don't "connect" things. A bad thing is a bad thing, a good thing is a good thing. They cna be separate (should be). What I mean is, you don't say to him, "I'm pleased with your test results, you did really well. I just can't understand how a boy who is supposed to be bright could forget to feed the dog." Keep the issues apart. That way the praise can be unconditional. You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. Great progress so far! Marg [/QUOTE]
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