Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Update
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 587549" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am so sorry. It is so hard to see what our kids are doing when they are destroying themselves and we cannot understand why they would make those choices. I cannot even fathom how much harder it would be to know your grandkids are in that environment and those types of situations.</p><p></p><p>You NEED to focus you YOU. You cannot fix anyone ever except yourself. No matter WHAT you do, you still won't be able to fix anyone else. </p><p></p><p>I think you need to work on immersing yourself in therapy, individual, group, and addiction. Why each? Group will help you see that you are not alone, not the only mom who really truly wants good things and keeps trusting even when deep down you know that trust means nothing to the addict in your life. Individual will help you deal with all those feelings you have stuffed down inside you for so long. You need individual therapy to help you access those feelings, and to help you figure out how to handle them. You need addictiont herapy because it makes the whole family sick. Your denial and desperate need to believe your daughter even when deep down you know she is lying to you, well, it s a parent thing and help for families of sub abusers can help you feel less alone, see hwo this started and what all it has taken from you, and help you cope with all of that too.</p><p></p><p>It won't be asy, but it will make you the best Barbara you can be, and it will allow you to finally find your own peace and to react from that point of view. It will also hlep you to see how strange your actions can be, and how to help stop that and behave in more reasonable and effective ways.</p><p></p><p>I am so sorry she is back Occupational Therapist (OT) her old ways. (((((hugs)))))</p><p></p><p>Isn't it time that YOU found some new ways so that her problems can be HER problems and not yours?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 587549, member: 1233"] I am so sorry. It is so hard to see what our kids are doing when they are destroying themselves and we cannot understand why they would make those choices. I cannot even fathom how much harder it would be to know your grandkids are in that environment and those types of situations. You NEED to focus you YOU. You cannot fix anyone ever except yourself. No matter WHAT you do, you still won't be able to fix anyone else. I think you need to work on immersing yourself in therapy, individual, group, and addiction. Why each? Group will help you see that you are not alone, not the only mom who really truly wants good things and keeps trusting even when deep down you know that trust means nothing to the addict in your life. Individual will help you deal with all those feelings you have stuffed down inside you for so long. You need individual therapy to help you access those feelings, and to help you figure out how to handle them. You need addictiont herapy because it makes the whole family sick. Your denial and desperate need to believe your daughter even when deep down you know she is lying to you, well, it s a parent thing and help for families of sub abusers can help you feel less alone, see hwo this started and what all it has taken from you, and help you cope with all of that too. It won't be asy, but it will make you the best Barbara you can be, and it will allow you to finally find your own peace and to react from that point of view. It will also hlep you to see how strange your actions can be, and how to help stop that and behave in more reasonable and effective ways. I am so sorry she is back Occupational Therapist (OT) her old ways. (((((hugs))))) Isn't it time that YOU found some new ways so that her problems can be HER problems and not yours? [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Update
Top