Hi all......it took a while for me to gather the courage to go on holiday to my parents...We only see them like every 4 months. Luckily we got a house to stay in opposite theirs, so not sharing one. The problem: My mom can't stand my sons behaviour! When he gets stressed and bored he gets VERY rude! Like seeking fights with his brother, shouldering me, telling her that she cant sit infront of the car, he wants to sit there....I did get him to sit in the back....eventually. He doesnt say please and thank you....seldom smiles, doesnt show any interest in them, exct. He wants me all to himself and he doesnt want me to go and spend any time with my parents....He will say infront of them he doesnt want her to go with to the shop, he wants me to be alone with him.... My mom says all this behaviour is because of jelousy, manipulation and that there is absolutely nothing wrong with him....That all his behaviour is because we spoiled him from babyhood.....She says the stories she read on Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) is where children are more withdrawn, make little eye contact, exct.....But that none of Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) is this irritated and rude...My son makes very good eye comtact....can even become verbally and physicly abusive! She tried to be nice by baking him all nice cookies and really trying to be nice, but she doesnt get any positive recognition from him....She feels rejected and hurt and then my dad told me all this saddens him.....And this brakes my heart. I told her not to take all this personally, so she asks if she must just accept his rude behaviour! I even gave him a terrible hiding and told him to behave and be less rude....He says he really will try....But I know...he cant. I even told her this is his better behaviour, she aint seen nothing yet! What can I do!!!???? I told her then the 2 of them musnt be in contact......but I cant go there without him, because he doesnt want to be alone....and I cant take him with because then it gives her more amunition to critisize me and hurt her feelings! Any Ideas!??? Luckily my husband will join us the last 2 days....then I can leave my son with him!