A few weeks ago, Kanga said she was "picked" to go on a 4-day trip; out of state to an indoor amusement park, shopping, hotel, etc. Ironic timing being what it is, I got the permission slip in the mail today. Umm...NOT. I called to 'decline' the invitation. The staff person immediately started telling me how well they would supervise her. I stopped her immidiately and told her while it was nothing personal, that I have been repeatedly assured by Residential Treatment Center (RTC) staff that she will be well supervised and DESPITE BEING ON A PROTECTION PLAN, she continues to find time to be alone with boys while on campus. That it was just too much to ask me to trust that they could manage to stay eyes on supervision in a large, chaotic amusement park if they were unable to do it on their heavily staffed campus. This staff person was shocked that I didn't want this opportunity for Kanga. Um, Kanga had that life (out of state vacations, etc). She chose to not be a part of it. Her choices mean that she will likely never lead a middle-class lifestyle with all of the travel and fun that it entails. **** We had the treatment team call and they agreed to our suggestion for consequences (no more co-ed sports team, enhanced supervision in all co-ed areas, special safety plan for prom). But it really bothered me that they did not seem as concerned as we are. The case manager said that 'this is mostly normal behavior, the part that concerns them is that the boy is only 12.' Umm...NOT. I have worked with teenage girls for 20+ years. I know what is normal. Liking boys and wanting a boyfriend -- normal. Having sex on the floor at work with a guy you met that month -- not normal. Liking girls and wanting a girlfriend -- less common, still normal. Having sex with a girl in the shower at school -- not normal. High school girls liking high schol boys -- normal. High school girls persuing pre-pubesent 6th graders -- not normal. I have a message into our funding case worker. I'm thinking we need to look elsewhere for placement for next year.