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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 209718" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>That's a good idea about setting up rendezvous. We have various events and places here and the first thing we have done with the kids on arrival at either a venue or a building within a venue, is designate a rendezvous point.</p><p></p><p>Other suggestions - talk to difficult child about what he expects as well as what he can suggest as things to keep him calm and happy. Letting him have everything his way is NOT the answer and he surely will be smart enough to realise you are not handing him a permission slip to be a spoilt brat! But we were able to do this with difficult child 3 - he knew about himself that he needed to do some schoolwork and also that some schoolwork often settled him down, so we would set off to the park with spare food (sandwiches and drinks) in the backpack (keeping him fed is one more anti-stress method - he's a lot more detached about popcorn or hot chips if he's got a tummy full of baked bean sandwiches) and also some pages of maths problems to do.</p><p>I remember one particularly difficult day at Currumbin Wildlife Sanctuary when there was a wildlife show on and difficult child 3 was stressing out from the crowd, the loud microphone and simply being out in public - and I turned him round on the stand (so he couldn't see the crowds or the show) and he sat on one step with his legs hanging through and used the next step up on the stand as his desk to do his schoolwork. He quieted right down from mid-tantrum and we all enjoyed the show much more. After the show he even came down from the stand to have his photo taken with a large Mountain Brushtail Possum (bobuck). Big beggar.</p><p></p><p>difficult child 3 knew he was more anxious than most people and knew about his autism. This made it easier for us to explain things to him and to listen to him when he said, "I'm not coping."</p><p></p><p>Other things that can help - if stimulation is an issue, then sometimes something as simple as wearing sunglasses and a hat can reduce stimulation to whatever the person can handle. Earplugs are also an option if there is too much noise. The best time to get used to ear plugs might be on the plane. Other alternatives to ear plugs are GOOD ear buds for MP3 players, or small headphones. I find the squishy foam ear plugs often don't fit a child's ears very well, but you can cut them down with scissors. Similarly, the ear buds with MP3 players come in different varieties and after some searching I've found the bubble ones seem to be much more adaptable to smaller ear canals. Even if there's no music going in, they can reduce the assault of external noise.</p><p></p><p>Reducing overall sensory input can reduce 'irritability' (for want of a better term) and hopefully make it easier for difficult child to stay on track.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 209718, member: 1991"] That's a good idea about setting up rendezvous. We have various events and places here and the first thing we have done with the kids on arrival at either a venue or a building within a venue, is designate a rendezvous point. Other suggestions - talk to difficult child about what he expects as well as what he can suggest as things to keep him calm and happy. Letting him have everything his way is NOT the answer and he surely will be smart enough to realise you are not handing him a permission slip to be a spoilt brat! But we were able to do this with difficult child 3 - he knew about himself that he needed to do some schoolwork and also that some schoolwork often settled him down, so we would set off to the park with spare food (sandwiches and drinks) in the backpack (keeping him fed is one more anti-stress method - he's a lot more detached about popcorn or hot chips if he's got a tummy full of baked bean sandwiches) and also some pages of maths problems to do. I remember one particularly difficult day at Currumbin Wildlife Sanctuary when there was a wildlife show on and difficult child 3 was stressing out from the crowd, the loud microphone and simply being out in public - and I turned him round on the stand (so he couldn't see the crowds or the show) and he sat on one step with his legs hanging through and used the next step up on the stand as his desk to do his schoolwork. He quieted right down from mid-tantrum and we all enjoyed the show much more. After the show he even came down from the stand to have his photo taken with a large Mountain Brushtail Possum (bobuck). Big beggar. difficult child 3 knew he was more anxious than most people and knew about his autism. This made it easier for us to explain things to him and to listen to him when he said, "I'm not coping." Other things that can help - if stimulation is an issue, then sometimes something as simple as wearing sunglasses and a hat can reduce stimulation to whatever the person can handle. Earplugs are also an option if there is too much noise. The best time to get used to ear plugs might be on the plane. Other alternatives to ear plugs are GOOD ear buds for MP3 players, or small headphones. I find the squishy foam ear plugs often don't fit a child's ears very well, but you can cut them down with scissors. Similarly, the ear buds with MP3 players come in different varieties and after some searching I've found the bubble ones seem to be much more adaptable to smaller ear canals. Even if there's no music going in, they can reduce the assault of external noise. Reducing overall sensory input can reduce 'irritability' (for want of a better term) and hopefully make it easier for difficult child to stay on track. Marg [/QUOTE]
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