We just planned a vacation at the beach in June. Here is the thing - we don't plan on difficult child going. I don't want to bring her drug problem and corresponding bad attitude on vacation with us. The last two cruises we went on were horrible - the first one she snuck off the ship with a group of other teens and went to a bar drinking in the Bahamas and the second one she was so miserable and mean that she destroyed the vacation for everyone (we later found out this was while she was doing meth). I swore I would never pay to have a miserable time again. Since she made her choice to not get help and be on her own, I certainly don't plan on inviting her to go to the beach with us. I don't want her to even know we are going because I don't need her laying a guilt trip on me about it and I don't want her to know when the house will be empty for a week. But part of me feels really guilty about that. I know I shouldn't. But I do. Have you gone on vacation with out your difficult child? Did you feel guilty about it?