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<blockquote data-quote="Marcie Mac" data-source="post: 142731" data-attributes="member: 47"><p>"You know, sometimes being caring, dependable, intelligent, nuturing, ect can stink" </p><p> </p><p>Lisa my friend, you forgot to add "co-dependent" to that list LOL </p><p> </p><p>Being in charge of everything all the time will wear you down. I know for me it was just easier to "do it myself" because no one else was stepping up and I knew it would be done right - whatever it was was putting me on overload, and it was much easier just to do it and get it done - which was fine if you only have one or two things to get done, but with three kids, SO and an X..... After a while it was assumed that mom would take care of what ever it was, and it became the lifestyle in my house.</p><p> </p><p>Its gonna be hard to get your family retrained. Mine is still a work in progress but slowly but surely I have been stepping back from the role I put myself in. Part of the problem that was stressing me out was that I always "assumed" that they would step up and offer help - surely they could "see" I was on overload. </p><p> </p><p>One day it dawned on me that psychic abilities didn't run in my family, and I had to open my mouth, sometimes loudly (ok, most times loudly) that they needed to take charge of their own stuff. I am getting pretty good at not saying "oh don't worry about it I will do it for you, or can I help you with that, or do you need any money, or a ride, or a babysitter" Its been a slow shift of power BACK, but I needed to do it to stay sane and keep myself from absolutely keeling over. </p><p> </p><p>Marcie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marcie Mac, post: 142731, member: 47"] "You know, sometimes being caring, dependable, intelligent, nuturing, ect can stink" Lisa my friend, you forgot to add "co-dependent" to that list LOL Being in charge of everything all the time will wear you down. I know for me it was just easier to "do it myself" because no one else was stepping up and I knew it would be done right - whatever it was was putting me on overload, and it was much easier just to do it and get it done - which was fine if you only have one or two things to get done, but with three kids, SO and an X..... After a while it was assumed that mom would take care of what ever it was, and it became the lifestyle in my house. Its gonna be hard to get your family retrained. Mine is still a work in progress but slowly but surely I have been stepping back from the role I put myself in. Part of the problem that was stressing me out was that I always "assumed" that they would step up and offer help - surely they could "see" I was on overload. One day it dawned on me that psychic abilities didn't run in my family, and I had to open my mouth, sometimes loudly (ok, most times loudly) that they needed to take charge of their own stuff. I am getting pretty good at not saying "oh don't worry about it I will do it for you, or can I help you with that, or do you need any money, or a ride, or a babysitter" Its been a slow shift of power BACK, but I needed to do it to stay sane and keep myself from absolutely keeling over. Marcie [/QUOTE]
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