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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 376570" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: purple">A person can change when and if he/she is truly committed and does everything necessary to change - for both themself and those people in his/her life. If you are doing everything to make it work, then in my humble opinion you've done your fair share. People asked me if I ever felt regret or guilt for leaving my exh when my girls were so little (2 and 4) and I didn't. I never felt one ounce of guilt or regret because I knew that through 3 years of counseling under my belt, I had done everything possible to make it work. Exh, however, never went with me or alone ONCE. He was not committed to changing in any way whatsoever. Either he wouldn't or it's possible he just couldn't. I do feel bad that we weren't able to make it work in regards to keeping my girls from having to go through a separation and divorce, but I still feel they were better off in the long run. Who would want their kids to endure a lifetime of dealing with a parent riddled with addictions and disfunctions? No one.</span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #800080">Do you have a counselor or therapist who can help you sort out some of the issues you're dealing with? My counselor helped me tap into a vast reserve of strength I never knew I had at that time. </span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 376570, member: 2211"] [SIZE=3][COLOR=purple][/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=purple]A person can change when and if he/she is truly committed and does everything necessary to change - for both themself and those people in his/her life. If you are doing everything to make it work, then in my humble opinion you've done your fair share. People asked me if I ever felt regret or guilt for leaving my exh when my girls were so little (2 and 4) and I didn't. I never felt one ounce of guilt or regret because I knew that through 3 years of counseling under my belt, I had done everything possible to make it work. Exh, however, never went with me or alone ONCE. He was not committed to changing in any way whatsoever. Either he wouldn't or it's possible he just couldn't. I do feel bad that we weren't able to make it work in regards to keeping my girls from having to go through a separation and divorce, but I still feel they were better off in the long run. Who would want their kids to endure a lifetime of dealing with a parent riddled with addictions and disfunctions? No one.[/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=purple][/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=#800080]Do you have a counselor or therapist who can help you sort out some of the issues you're dealing with? My counselor helped me tap into a vast reserve of strength I never knew I had at that time. [/COLOR][/SIZE] [/QUOTE]
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