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Venting about picky eating - Staying with in laws for Xmas, they won't allow his food
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<blockquote data-quote="PlainJane" data-source="post: 477438" data-attributes="member: 11700"><p>I should say that she allows the kids carbs on special occasion, like cake at a party. Though, I dont think there will be any pie, because it is "loaded with sugar and empty carbs" and I know she won't bake it...While we were out there last time, we offered to take her daughter with us to the zoo. She sent her with no packed meal, but when we got home, she grilled me on what we fed her daughter (this is when I first was informed about the carb issue) At the zoo, her daughter wanted a PB&J sandwich and my son wanted a hot dog, no roll, as he will not eat the roll. After which her daughter asked for my son's hot dog roll...I said yes, I didnt think it was a big deal, but my sister in law was upset we ordered her PB&J (all carbs and sugar, and the PB at the zoo isn't natural) and she was annoyed I gave her my son's roll. sister in law said "I have to watch her with those coarbs, she really loves them". </p><p></p><p>difficult child will eat eggs, scrambled, grilled cheese, noodles with butter, PB sandwiches, and sometimes toast. Oh and certain yogurts. New foods on his plate are not an option. He goes into a melt down. Last Thanksgiving at my parents house, he refused to eat all day. I ended up making him a grilled cheese. It took him months of feeding therapy to eat PB. PB is our victory because it doesn't require cooking or refrigeration, and can easily be brought anywhere that will not have food he will eat available. I know he can last 10 days with out nuggets and hot dogs (assuming that all the other foods I listed are permitted at her house) I guess I just already feel like his food list is so darn short as it is, I don't want to shorten it anymore. Also, my husband had similar issues as a child (we think he is undiagnosed Aspie, but that's another story) and his mother did not cater to his food issues, and I kid you not (as he will tell it and so will sister in law and mother in law) that he lived on a diet of 90% dry toast for years, and sometimes mother in law wouldnt fed him if he refused to eat what she made for the family. And while mother in law and sister in law don't acknowledge it, my husband was severly underweight and malnurished as a kid. The pics of him as a child are heart wrenching, and he did run into health issue because of it. (mother in law plays it down) Nothing too severe, but enough that I feel mother in law is in no position to give the advice on how to handle food issues. Not to mention sister in law's eating issues that I'm not even fully aware of the extent of.</p><p></p><p>Anyway, hubby and I are not in the camp of "if you don't eat what I give you then don't eat." Because difficult child was failing to gain as a toddler, and falling off the weight charts, I was told my concern is to make sure he gains. He is still a little skinny. And at 4 years old, hasn't gained in over 6 months. Thankfully, he is in a healthy weight range, even if near the bottom, but its honestly because hubby and I are diligent about secretly monitoring his intake. (We don't let him know, or it will turn into a battle)</p><p></p><p>I don't want there to be issues because of this. My inlaws, dispite what I've focused on, are really good people. We do get along and enjoy each other 's company. I think, and this is my opinion, that its very obvious that mother in law has A LOT of adult Asperger's behaviors, (even sister in law has acknowledged this) and so does hubby (which he acknowledges) and sister in law (who insists that her aspie behaviors ar NOT aspie, but "perfectly normal") and I think by acknowledging difficult child, sister in law is aknowledging this (possible Asperger's) about herself she doesnt want to? I could be way off on this, but it just seems that way. (by the way, I have many asperger behaviors, and my father also. It doesn't bother me, but dad believes he is "normal" [what is the obsession with the word normal?] and denies difficult child diagnoses...)</p><p></p><p>Anyway, this will make me nervous until we get out there and face it. I think we can take nuggets and hotdogs out if his menu, and be ok. I'm worried if its not the food issues, then it will be difficult child's behavior that she will comment on. It was his behavior and my stress over it she was dismissing last time when brother in law spoke up and told her that difficult child's behavior is more then just being a brat. She felt if we stuck with time out, then we could stop all his behavior problems...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="PlainJane, post: 477438, member: 11700"] I should say that she allows the kids carbs on special occasion, like cake at a party. Though, I dont think there will be any pie, because it is "loaded with sugar and empty carbs" and I know she won't bake it...While we were out there last time, we offered to take her daughter with us to the zoo. She sent her with no packed meal, but when we got home, she grilled me on what we fed her daughter (this is when I first was informed about the carb issue) At the zoo, her daughter wanted a PB&J sandwich and my son wanted a hot dog, no roll, as he will not eat the roll. After which her daughter asked for my son's hot dog roll...I said yes, I didnt think it was a big deal, but my sister in law was upset we ordered her PB&J (all carbs and sugar, and the PB at the zoo isn't natural) and she was annoyed I gave her my son's roll. sister in law said "I have to watch her with those coarbs, she really loves them". difficult child will eat eggs, scrambled, grilled cheese, noodles with butter, PB sandwiches, and sometimes toast. Oh and certain yogurts. New foods on his plate are not an option. He goes into a melt down. Last Thanksgiving at my parents house, he refused to eat all day. I ended up making him a grilled cheese. It took him months of feeding therapy to eat PB. PB is our victory because it doesn't require cooking or refrigeration, and can easily be brought anywhere that will not have food he will eat available. I know he can last 10 days with out nuggets and hot dogs (assuming that all the other foods I listed are permitted at her house) I guess I just already feel like his food list is so darn short as it is, I don't want to shorten it anymore. Also, my husband had similar issues as a child (we think he is undiagnosed Aspie, but that's another story) and his mother did not cater to his food issues, and I kid you not (as he will tell it and so will sister in law and mother in law) that he lived on a diet of 90% dry toast for years, and sometimes mother in law wouldnt fed him if he refused to eat what she made for the family. And while mother in law and sister in law don't acknowledge it, my husband was severly underweight and malnurished as a kid. The pics of him as a child are heart wrenching, and he did run into health issue because of it. (mother in law plays it down) Nothing too severe, but enough that I feel mother in law is in no position to give the advice on how to handle food issues. Not to mention sister in law's eating issues that I'm not even fully aware of the extent of. Anyway, hubby and I are not in the camp of "if you don't eat what I give you then don't eat." Because difficult child was failing to gain as a toddler, and falling off the weight charts, I was told my concern is to make sure he gains. He is still a little skinny. And at 4 years old, hasn't gained in over 6 months. Thankfully, he is in a healthy weight range, even if near the bottom, but its honestly because hubby and I are diligent about secretly monitoring his intake. (We don't let him know, or it will turn into a battle) I don't want there to be issues because of this. My inlaws, dispite what I've focused on, are really good people. We do get along and enjoy each other 's company. I think, and this is my opinion, that its very obvious that mother in law has A LOT of adult Asperger's behaviors, (even sister in law has acknowledged this) and so does hubby (which he acknowledges) and sister in law (who insists that her aspie behaviors ar NOT aspie, but "perfectly normal") and I think by acknowledging difficult child, sister in law is aknowledging this (possible Asperger's) about herself she doesnt want to? I could be way off on this, but it just seems that way. (by the way, I have many asperger behaviors, and my father also. It doesn't bother me, but dad believes he is "normal" [what is the obsession with the word normal?] and denies difficult child diagnoses...) Anyway, this will make me nervous until we get out there and face it. I think we can take nuggets and hotdogs out if his menu, and be ok. I'm worried if its not the food issues, then it will be difficult child's behavior that she will comment on. It was his behavior and my stress over it she was dismissing last time when brother in law spoke up and told her that difficult child's behavior is more then just being a brat. She felt if we stuck with time out, then we could stop all his behavior problems... [/QUOTE]
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