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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 192192" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Thank you, ML! </p><p></p><p>Marg, as another thought- I agree with the concept of family therapy like you described- I think we do need that. I've been trying to pin-point more specificaly what is bugging me about this intern. I really do think it is not what he's intentionally saying to me (ie- the well thought-out words), but what he's "just saying".</p><p></p><p>For instance, he talked about how I needed to trust him whole-heartedly in order for this to work. I know I need to trust him, but that isn't given blindly right off the batt. Anyway, then later he said, "well, let's get your son in here next time so I can hear his side of the story". That made me think that underneath it all, he really does believe that my son's "side" and my "side" are two different things and that they are in conflict. Maybe I'm reading too much into it- we'll go tomorrow and I'll try to keep an open mind. But I don't want to ignore clues if they are adding up to this guy not being open-minded enough to see who we really are and what we really need the most help with. When that happens, the focus ends up being on an issue that's about number 10 on the list of imprtance, rather than on the critical issues. I think you were saying that, too. </p><p></p><p>Maybe when tdocs have very little experience, they haven't learned that people coming to see them have a lot of various backgrounds and don't all fit the sterotype. Then, when they have a whole lot of experience, they think they already know everything you need before you even walk in the door!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 192192, member: 3699"] Thank you, ML! Marg, as another thought- I agree with the concept of family therapy like you described- I think we do need that. I've been trying to pin-point more specificaly what is bugging me about this intern. I really do think it is not what he's intentionally saying to me (ie- the well thought-out words), but what he's "just saying". For instance, he talked about how I needed to trust him whole-heartedly in order for this to work. I know I need to trust him, but that isn't given blindly right off the batt. Anyway, then later he said, "well, let's get your son in here next time so I can hear his side of the story". That made me think that underneath it all, he really does believe that my son's "side" and my "side" are two different things and that they are in conflict. Maybe I'm reading too much into it- we'll go tomorrow and I'll try to keep an open mind. But I don't want to ignore clues if they are adding up to this guy not being open-minded enough to see who we really are and what we really need the most help with. When that happens, the focus ends up being on an issue that's about number 10 on the list of imprtance, rather than on the critical issues. I think you were saying that, too. Maybe when tdocs have very little experience, they haven't learned that people coming to see them have a lot of various backgrounds and don't all fit the sterotype. Then, when they have a whole lot of experience, they think they already know everything you need before you even walk in the door! [/QUOTE]
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