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<blockquote data-quote="keista" data-source="post: 474657" data-attributes="member: 11965"><p>I don't have any practical advice with the S/W. So far, I've had the luxury of switching professionals (whoever they were) if they didn't 'get it'. Fortunately, the ones that I can't switch easily really do "get it" So ((((HUGS)))) and good luck to you getting a new S/W, OR getting her to see the fact that behavior charts just do not work when there's a real biological component to the behavior.</p><p></p><p>I do want to say something regarding difficult child, though. Have you discussed with him his illness and related issues as a true illness? IOW you're not taking him to the hospital because he's crazy, he is legitmately sick, and when an illness can't be controlled at home, ppl go to a hospital for treatment. My favorite current analogy for this is the "stomach bug" If you get hit with the bug and throw up (poor behavior) it is understandable, but someone has to clean it up. You don't just walk away and leave it. This brings in personal responsibility for one's actions, even though, to some degree, they "can't be stopped" If a person throws up enough from a bug, they get dehydrated (more poor behavior creating utter chaos). If it's severe enough and can't be controlled at home, they must go to a hospital for IV fluids.</p><p></p><p>in my opinion this makes the illness and resulting behavior separate from the self, but something that still must be dealt with.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="keista, post: 474657, member: 11965"] I don't have any practical advice with the S/W. So far, I've had the luxury of switching professionals (whoever they were) if they didn't 'get it'. Fortunately, the ones that I can't switch easily really do "get it" So ((((HUGS)))) and good luck to you getting a new S/W, OR getting her to see the fact that behavior charts just do not work when there's a real biological component to the behavior. I do want to say something regarding difficult child, though. Have you discussed with him his illness and related issues as a true illness? IOW you're not taking him to the hospital because he's crazy, he is legitmately sick, and when an illness can't be controlled at home, ppl go to a hospital for treatment. My favorite current analogy for this is the "stomach bug" If you get hit with the bug and throw up (poor behavior) it is understandable, but someone has to clean it up. You don't just walk away and leave it. This brings in personal responsibility for one's actions, even though, to some degree, they "can't be stopped" If a person throws up enough from a bug, they get dehydrated (more poor behavior creating utter chaos). If it's severe enough and can't be controlled at home, they must go to a hospital for IV fluids. in my opinion this makes the illness and resulting behavior separate from the self, but something that still must be dealt with. [/QUOTE]
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