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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 647957" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>((HUGS)) to you. I know the pain you are dealing with.</p><p> </p><p></p><p> MWM is correct. Your son created the situation he's in.</p><p>Our adult children can be good at the playing the victim, they want us to feel sorry them and then we wonder "why isn't anyone helping him"</p><p>My son is on and off again homeless. He manages to couch surf but that only lasts so long. He can be very charming but eventually his "true" nature comes out then he's off looking for the next person to "feel sorry" for him.</p><p>My D H and went above and beyond what anyone should do to try and help him and thankfully we finally got to the point enough is enough. Put a fork in me, I'm DONE!! It's a good place to be. I have successfully detached. This does not mean that I don't care or love my son, I do, but I will no longer allow him to hold my emotions hostage.</p><p> </p><p></p><p> This is a crystal clear indication that it's time to let go. At 34 he should be happy for you.</p><p>We as parents cannot allow our lives to be hi-jacked by our out of control adult children. You and your husband have every right to go to FL or anywhere else you want to without your son trying to make you feel guilty.</p><p> </p><p>I know your your heart hurts for him but there is nothing you can do for him. He needs to do it for himself.</p><p> </p><p>Hang in there....</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 647957, member: 18516"] ((HUGS)) to you. I know the pain you are dealing with. MWM is correct. Your son created the situation he's in. Our adult children can be good at the playing the victim, they want us to feel sorry them and then we wonder "why isn't anyone helping him" My son is on and off again homeless. He manages to couch surf but that only lasts so long. He can be very charming but eventually his "true" nature comes out then he's off looking for the next person to "feel sorry" for him. My D H and went above and beyond what anyone should do to try and help him and thankfully we finally got to the point enough is enough. Put a fork in me, I'm DONE!! It's a good place to be. I have successfully detached. This does not mean that I don't care or love my son, I do, but I will no longer allow him to hold my emotions hostage. This is a crystal clear indication that it's time to let go. At 34 he should be happy for you. We as parents cannot allow our lives to be hi-jacked by our out of control adult children. You and your husband have every right to go to FL or anywhere else you want to without your son trying to make you feel guilty. I know your your heart hurts for him but there is nothing you can do for him. He needs to do it for himself. Hang in there.... [/QUOTE]
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