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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 648007" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>I know how hard that was for you to deny his request for money and I know how hard it is to try and not worry about where he is and what he's doing. You are beginning to take your life back. How wonderful that you and your husband took some time together to do something that afforded you some joy.</p><p>I can tell you that these adult children of ours are very resourceful. I have had those desperate messages from my son telling me he's going to freeze to death or starve to death and yet he always manages to find a place to stay or food to eat. Each time you say no to a request for money, food, a ride, whatever it may be, you get a little stronger and the pain you feel lessens.</p><p>I've had people accuse me of being cold hearted saying things like "how could you allow your son to be homeless" to which I replied, "I didn't allow him to be homeless, he did that all by himself. He's capable of working and chooses not to, his life his choice"</p><p>The old saying "don't judge me until you've walked a mile in my shoes" is very true for us parents that have these issues with our adult children.</p><p>Stay close to this site, there is always some one here that can offer you support. There is also an article at the top of this forum on detaching, take some time to read that.</p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/notalone.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":notalone:" title="notalone :notalone:" data-shortname=":notalone:" /><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/staystrong.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":staystrong:" title="staystrong :staystrong:" data-shortname=":staystrong:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 648007, member: 18516"] I know how hard that was for you to deny his request for money and I know how hard it is to try and not worry about where he is and what he's doing. You are beginning to take your life back. How wonderful that you and your husband took some time together to do something that afforded you some joy. I can tell you that these adult children of ours are very resourceful. I have had those desperate messages from my son telling me he's going to freeze to death or starve to death and yet he always manages to find a place to stay or food to eat. Each time you say no to a request for money, food, a ride, whatever it may be, you get a little stronger and the pain you feel lessens. I've had people accuse me of being cold hearted saying things like "how could you allow your son to be homeless" to which I replied, "I didn't allow him to be homeless, he did that all by himself. He's capable of working and chooses not to, his life his choice" The old saying "don't judge me until you've walked a mile in my shoes" is very true for us parents that have these issues with our adult children. Stay close to this site, there is always some one here that can offer you support. There is also an article at the top of this forum on detaching, take some time to read that. :notalone::staystrong: [/QUOTE]
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