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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 636668" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Pardon me for jumping in here like this, but are all sick families THAT much the same? They pick one member to designate as the "blacksheep" and, in my opinion, they blame EVERTHING wrong with them on us and like to show us how much we don't matter.</p><p></p><p>When my mother had a brain tumor, she made everyone, including my dad, who was her ex, not to tell me she was sick. She didn't want me to show up. She was more interested in that than almost her own health. I wasn't to know. I never did know. Even my father, the one person who did not reject me or blame me for the family's issues, didn't tell me. I found out years later. I'm quite sure my siblings thought it was cool to exclude me from this knowledge, although I'm not sure what I would have done about it. I hadn't been close to Mom for years. This was just one more kiss off from Mom telling me I didn't matter, just like she did from the grave. (And all that time I'd been sending nice letters to her, telling her how much I loved her and that it was me in the wrong...I feel foolish that I tried that hard to make my mommy love me. It didn't work...lol). I don't try to get people to love me anymore. I can't control them, even my own kids.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 636668, member: 1550"] Pardon me for jumping in here like this, but are all sick families THAT much the same? They pick one member to designate as the "blacksheep" and, in my opinion, they blame EVERTHING wrong with them on us and like to show us how much we don't matter. When my mother had a brain tumor, she made everyone, including my dad, who was her ex, not to tell me she was sick. She didn't want me to show up. She was more interested in that than almost her own health. I wasn't to know. I never did know. Even my father, the one person who did not reject me or blame me for the family's issues, didn't tell me. I found out years later. I'm quite sure my siblings thought it was cool to exclude me from this knowledge, although I'm not sure what I would have done about it. I hadn't been close to Mom for years. This was just one more kiss off from Mom telling me I didn't matter, just like she did from the grave. (And all that time I'd been sending nice letters to her, telling her how much I loved her and that it was me in the wrong...I feel foolish that I tried that hard to make my mommy love me. It didn't work...lol). I don't try to get people to love me anymore. I can't control them, even my own kids. [/QUOTE]
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