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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 644171" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>My difficult child got a really good job when she was allowed to look for work after her initial three months in the sober house. I helped her make a list of places to go and write her resume. She was allowed to go out looking Three mornings a week and have a family member pick her up and drive her. On the very first day out she had three interviews on the spot and was called the next day for a follow up from one of them. She got the job, it was a perfect job for her doing what she loved doing, four days a week, ten hours a day, $10 an hour, lots of responsibility. She wasn't ready for it and in hindsight I really wish she had not gotten that job. It would have been better if she had just gotten some basic minimum wage job because she was fired after about 4 months. That began a series of waitress jobs where she learned it was very hard to make any money and she had to work her tail off. It took her three years to learn the lessons of being a good employee before she was able to find a job that paid what the first job paid originally.</p><p></p><p>I suspect your son will find out working in a restaurant is very hard work and his tips (if any because many people don't tip or tip very little) must be split between many other employees. They oonly work during lunch and dinner hours and the restaurant over hires to make sure they have enough employees. Employees come and go every day, some just stop showing up. I'm not saying this is bad for him because coming right out of treatment he is not ready for a job that will require him to be a super responsible person right away. It will be a process, he will need to make sure he is doing what he needs to do to stay clean/sober first.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 644171, member: 59"] My difficult child got a really good job when she was allowed to look for work after her initial three months in the sober house. I helped her make a list of places to go and write her resume. She was allowed to go out looking Three mornings a week and have a family member pick her up and drive her. On the very first day out she had three interviews on the spot and was called the next day for a follow up from one of them. She got the job, it was a perfect job for her doing what she loved doing, four days a week, ten hours a day, $10 an hour, lots of responsibility. She wasn't ready for it and in hindsight I really wish she had not gotten that job. It would have been better if she had just gotten some basic minimum wage job because she was fired after about 4 months. That began a series of waitress jobs where she learned it was very hard to make any money and she had to work her tail off. It took her three years to learn the lessons of being a good employee before she was able to find a job that paid what the first job paid originally. I suspect your son will find out working in a restaurant is very hard work and his tips (if any because many people don't tip or tip very little) must be split between many other employees. They oonly work during lunch and dinner hours and the restaurant over hires to make sure they have enough employees. Employees come and go every day, some just stop showing up. I'm not saying this is bad for him because coming right out of treatment he is not ready for a job that will require him to be a super responsible person right away. It will be a process, he will need to make sure he is doing what he needs to do to stay clean/sober first. [/QUOTE]
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