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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 255891" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Ok- this one, I have thought about and wonder if this was going on. It may be because I was trying to prevent ANYTHING "bad". The PO was threatening to hold me accountable if it did and telling me away from difficult child that I was to keep him supervised 24/7. He was on a suspended sentence for commitment to state. So, it seems, at least right now, that I felt this was inevitable but I was trying to prolong it as long as possible. Then, I still don't get why the courtroom concentration wasn't on holding difficult child accountable instead of me being the cause of the problem. It will always bother me- and I do worry that others working with difficult child while he's in there will just try to convince him more that he''s in there because of me instead of helping him taking responsibility and learn better ways. I don't want him being in and out of prison all his life, convinced that he never stood a chance in life because he had a single mom that didn't do something or whatever.</p><p></p><p>And let's not forget- if my son had gone out and started another fire, it would not have been the people telling me to let him go out to have to pay the restitution and take responsibility. It's not them that feels the shame and guilt about why I ever let him go. It's not them that loses the pay from work to deal with all this.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 255891, member: 3699"] Ok- this one, I have thought about and wonder if this was going on. It may be because I was trying to prevent ANYTHING "bad". The PO was threatening to hold me accountable if it did and telling me away from difficult child that I was to keep him supervised 24/7. He was on a suspended sentence for commitment to state. So, it seems, at least right now, that I felt this was inevitable but I was trying to prolong it as long as possible. Then, I still don't get why the courtroom concentration wasn't on holding difficult child accountable instead of me being the cause of the problem. It will always bother me- and I do worry that others working with difficult child while he's in there will just try to convince him more that he''s in there because of me instead of helping him taking responsibility and learn better ways. I don't want him being in and out of prison all his life, convinced that he never stood a chance in life because he had a single mom that didn't do something or whatever. And let's not forget- if my son had gone out and started another fire, it would not have been the people telling me to let him go out to have to pay the restitution and take responsibility. It's not them that feels the shame and guilt about why I ever let him go. It's not them that loses the pay from work to deal with all this. [/QUOTE]
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