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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 255996" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Thanks, Marg. I am seeing a therapist and the gal knows it. She could have questioned me about it under oath but didn't. She didn't hesitate to get up before the judge and say that I would not address my own issues, though. This is why I believe it's really not their point to get to the truth of things or that they are being objective. I don't think they will be satisfied with that, since I really believe the aim is to get me court ordered treatment- that way they have access to my mental health records and if I were to miss an appointment, they could take me before the judge. I am going to offer to let them do a COMPLETE assesment on me though- but I'm not doing just one written personality test.</p><p></p><p>And again, the relationship between me and gal and po didn't start out good, then me doing something confrontational or defiant or anything causing it to go bad- the gal called dss right away- even though she was assigned to help me get difficult child more mental health treatment. difficult child's out-patient psychiatrist ended up writing a letter to the judge saying that it would be detrimental to difficult child to take him from my custody. All this was 2 years ago. And, now we are going thru the same scrutiny again- this is why I don't think it's going to stop without something major happening. I had offered before to have a "sit-down" to talk about things and get any doubts cleared up, but they never responded at all or even acknowledged my offer.</p><p></p><p>Then, instead of doing ONE thing to help get difficult child more mental health treatment, the gal filed a chins to get it in a court order that I get mental health treatment for difficult child. Ok. I had and have been doing that. Now, who's standing in the way of doing what the psychiatrist recommended? The PO and the GAL. So, if I had not taken him to an appointment, I would have been breaking a court order, but they can completely ignore that difficult child needs a different level of care and no one holds them accountable. And the PO was standing in the way before this charge. I tried to discuss this with the defense attny- he just said he didn't know anything about mental health stuff. That's what PO's super said, too. The defense attny also works as a gal. So, basicly, NO person over there gets the mental health issue here. Their idea of mental health treatment is a behavior contract. I tried 2 years ago to find an attny who knew about mental health issues AND the Department of Juvenile Justice system. I couldn't find a single one. I don't think it's about them wanting to make sure he gets care- I think it's about them wanting to be in charge of everything, without them having to be held accountable no matter what. Look at the PO- she claims I refused mst because I asked judge to change the order to recommendations by state expert and the judge did. The PO never returned a call from a psychiatric hospital difficult child was in, but that's ok.</p><p></p><p>I would call the sw and asked if she would do a certificate of need for Residential Treatment Center (RTC) if difficult child were released, then if she agreed, have the defense attny appeal this judgement. But, they have so worried that everyone in this county is already convinced that I'm the problem and not to work with me. They can hate me all they want, but someone should look at whether or not their actions and recommendations and judgement are clouded by their personal feelings for me. And- what the gal went and told my son before court- well, if that had been done by the other parent fighting for custody, that parent could get in trouble for trying to turn the kid against the first parent. It's called "parental alienation" and it can be used against a person in court- unless of course, it's done by someone in their own system.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 255996, member: 3699"] Thanks, Marg. I am seeing a therapist and the gal knows it. She could have questioned me about it under oath but didn't. She didn't hesitate to get up before the judge and say that I would not address my own issues, though. This is why I believe it's really not their point to get to the truth of things or that they are being objective. I don't think they will be satisfied with that, since I really believe the aim is to get me court ordered treatment- that way they have access to my mental health records and if I were to miss an appointment, they could take me before the judge. I am going to offer to let them do a COMPLETE assesment on me though- but I'm not doing just one written personality test. And again, the relationship between me and gal and po didn't start out good, then me doing something confrontational or defiant or anything causing it to go bad- the gal called dss right away- even though she was assigned to help me get difficult child more mental health treatment. difficult child's out-patient psychiatrist ended up writing a letter to the judge saying that it would be detrimental to difficult child to take him from my custody. All this was 2 years ago. And, now we are going thru the same scrutiny again- this is why I don't think it's going to stop without something major happening. I had offered before to have a "sit-down" to talk about things and get any doubts cleared up, but they never responded at all or even acknowledged my offer. Then, instead of doing ONE thing to help get difficult child more mental health treatment, the gal filed a chins to get it in a court order that I get mental health treatment for difficult child. Ok. I had and have been doing that. Now, who's standing in the way of doing what the psychiatrist recommended? The PO and the GAL. So, if I had not taken him to an appointment, I would have been breaking a court order, but they can completely ignore that difficult child needs a different level of care and no one holds them accountable. And the PO was standing in the way before this charge. I tried to discuss this with the defense attny- he just said he didn't know anything about mental health stuff. That's what PO's super said, too. The defense attny also works as a gal. So, basicly, NO person over there gets the mental health issue here. Their idea of mental health treatment is a behavior contract. I tried 2 years ago to find an attny who knew about mental health issues AND the Department of Juvenile Justice system. I couldn't find a single one. I don't think it's about them wanting to make sure he gets care- I think it's about them wanting to be in charge of everything, without them having to be held accountable no matter what. Look at the PO- she claims I refused mst because I asked judge to change the order to recommendations by state expert and the judge did. The PO never returned a call from a psychiatric hospital difficult child was in, but that's ok. I would call the sw and asked if she would do a certificate of need for Residential Treatment Center (RTC) if difficult child were released, then if she agreed, have the defense attny appeal this judgement. But, they have so worried that everyone in this county is already convinced that I'm the problem and not to work with me. They can hate me all they want, but someone should look at whether or not their actions and recommendations and judgement are clouded by their personal feelings for me. And- what the gal went and told my son before court- well, if that had been done by the other parent fighting for custody, that parent could get in trouble for trying to turn the kid against the first parent. It's called "parental alienation" and it can be used against a person in court- unless of course, it's done by someone in their own system. [/QUOTE]
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