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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 256032" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>She wrote one but I never presented it because the judge was not prepared to address this issue on Monday- much to the gal's dismay. Once I find out when my court date will be, I might ask her to write another one. I am conceding that I have intermittent depression and anxiety issues. Of course, this might or might not be contributing to difficult child's issues. difficult child's psychiatrist from psychiatric hospital said we'd need family therapy to determine if I'm handling things in a way that's effecting difficult child, and I'm fine with that if difficult child is out of the home until we get past a few "hurdles". But, I'm not going to be a happy person if they try to court order something- like medications- for something- like familial tremors- that has NO effect on difficult child and in no way could make him commit illegal activities. The gal asked me about this last year while I was tesifying- she said "well, what if it embaresses him". I said "tough". And besaides, since it is hereditary, what if his hands start shaking at some point (which ocassionally they do)- shouldn't he be raised by someone who can help him deal with it instead of being ashamed of it?</p><p></p><p>Anyway- the gal is trying to justify all this by saying that I am not dealing with my issues- but notice- she knows I am and did not question me about it Monday because then the judge would know I am and the gal would no longer be able to make that statement to everyone in court. IOW, many people in the court room know that I'm seeing a therapist- and they ALL know that I took myself in the past. But, the judge does not know that I'm seeing a therapist right now- it never came up and didn't seem to matter. The GAL, though, started saying in court that I refused to deal with my own issues. She said this after I was off the witness stand so I could not refute it- I had to remain quiet. The judge has no way to know differently or doubt the gal until I get back in the court room and can tell her. The GAL knows I am- she's lieing- she's doing it to make me look bad and get the judge to order me into treatment- because of course, the judge is thinking that I am refusing it.</p><p></p><p>Frankly, though, I've told a couple of people that it doesn't matter what issues I have, it does not justify difficult child holding a knife near my throat and he needs to learn that this is no excuse- he doesn't need to hear people in a court saying that it's because his mom has issues, in my humble opinion. What happens when he's married someday and his wife has some issues? Does that give him reason to pull a knife on her? I think THEY are enabling him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 256032, member: 3699"] She wrote one but I never presented it because the judge was not prepared to address this issue on Monday- much to the gal's dismay. Once I find out when my court date will be, I might ask her to write another one. I am conceding that I have intermittent depression and anxiety issues. Of course, this might or might not be contributing to difficult child's issues. difficult child's psychiatrist from psychiatric hospital said we'd need family therapy to determine if I'm handling things in a way that's effecting difficult child, and I'm fine with that if difficult child is out of the home until we get past a few "hurdles". But, I'm not going to be a happy person if they try to court order something- like medications- for something- like familial tremors- that has NO effect on difficult child and in no way could make him commit illegal activities. The gal asked me about this last year while I was tesifying- she said "well, what if it embaresses him". I said "tough". And besaides, since it is hereditary, what if his hands start shaking at some point (which ocassionally they do)- shouldn't he be raised by someone who can help him deal with it instead of being ashamed of it? Anyway- the gal is trying to justify all this by saying that I am not dealing with my issues- but notice- she knows I am and did not question me about it Monday because then the judge would know I am and the gal would no longer be able to make that statement to everyone in court. IOW, many people in the court room know that I'm seeing a therapist- and they ALL know that I took myself in the past. But, the judge does not know that I'm seeing a therapist right now- it never came up and didn't seem to matter. The GAL, though, started saying in court that I refused to deal with my own issues. She said this after I was off the witness stand so I could not refute it- I had to remain quiet. The judge has no way to know differently or doubt the gal until I get back in the court room and can tell her. The GAL knows I am- she's lieing- she's doing it to make me look bad and get the judge to order me into treatment- because of course, the judge is thinking that I am refusing it. Frankly, though, I've told a couple of people that it doesn't matter what issues I have, it does not justify difficult child holding a knife near my throat and he needs to learn that this is no excuse- he doesn't need to hear people in a court saying that it's because his mom has issues, in my humble opinion. What happens when he's married someday and his wife has some issues? Does that give him reason to pull a knife on her? I think THEY are enabling him. [/QUOTE]
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