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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 256310" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>by the way, CASA and GAL programs are extremely similar. In some states attorneys are used to represent "the best interests of the child" and in other states, like Florida, it is done by volunteers who have x amount of training. There are outstanding CASA and GAL representatives and there are total losers (both attorneys and volunteers). It is the luck of the draw which one your child gets <strong>but</strong> you will never get one who is or can be overly impacted by the opinions or feelings of the biological parent. </p><p> </p><p>As a retired volunteer GAL I can attest to the fact that on more than one occasion I paced my home during the night because there was not "a bad guy" to compare to "a good guy". Very often it is normal people who think their way it the best idea. I was literally surrounded in the Courthouse hallway by a large family who sensed I was going to recommend that their baby be sent to live with another branch of the family. I was fearful. I did make that recommendation and it was followed. It was, in my humble opinion, "in the best interests of the child." I recommend that two children living happily with a loving grandparent locally be reunited with their bioDad out of State. I literally vomited because I was a grandparent raising a child I loved. I could only imagine the pain. It was my last case because it took such a terrible emotional toll on me. The children adjusted to the paternal family and have grown up healthy and happy. The maternal grandmother,a lovely woman, was so distraught that she sold her business months after court.</p><p> </p><p>Also, it is a requirement here in juvenile cases that written reports be submited <em><u>well in advance of Court</u></em> by all the parties to the case. The Judge makes the decision but very often everyone knows in advance what is going to happen in Court. Although it sounds like a conspiracy, in actuality it prevents last minute drama and capriciousness in choices that will impact children for a lifetime. </p><p> </p><p>GALs, CASAs, POs are outsiders trying to make decisions on family life impacts on children. Your son is alive, is safe, is going to be in a safe structured environment and needs to focus on his future. A new chapter has begun and I hope that you both can move on and adjust. Rehashing the past is counterproductive for you and will stunt the growth of your son, in my humble opinion. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 256310, member: 35"] by the way, CASA and GAL programs are extremely similar. In some states attorneys are used to represent "the best interests of the child" and in other states, like Florida, it is done by volunteers who have x amount of training. There are outstanding CASA and GAL representatives and there are total losers (both attorneys and volunteers). It is the luck of the draw which one your child gets [B]but[/B] you will never get one who is or can be overly impacted by the opinions or feelings of the biological parent. As a retired volunteer GAL I can attest to the fact that on more than one occasion I paced my home during the night because there was not "a bad guy" to compare to "a good guy". Very often it is normal people who think their way it the best idea. I was literally surrounded in the Courthouse hallway by a large family who sensed I was going to recommend that their baby be sent to live with another branch of the family. I was fearful. I did make that recommendation and it was followed. It was, in my humble opinion, "in the best interests of the child." I recommend that two children living happily with a loving grandparent locally be reunited with their bioDad out of State. I literally vomited because I was a grandparent raising a child I loved. I could only imagine the pain. It was my last case because it took such a terrible emotional toll on me. The children adjusted to the paternal family and have grown up healthy and happy. The maternal grandmother,a lovely woman, was so distraught that she sold her business months after court. Also, it is a requirement here in juvenile cases that written reports be submited [I][U]well in advance of Court[/U][/I] by all the parties to the case. The Judge makes the decision but very often everyone knows in advance what is going to happen in Court. Although it sounds like a conspiracy, in actuality it prevents last minute drama and capriciousness in choices that will impact children for a lifetime. GALs, CASAs, POs are outsiders trying to make decisions on family life impacts on children. Your son is alive, is safe, is going to be in a safe structured environment and needs to focus on his future. A new chapter has begun and I hope that you both can move on and adjust. Rehashing the past is counterproductive for you and will stunt the growth of your son, in my humble opinion. DDD [/QUOTE]
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