Well bio mom had to call the police on my SS last week. As I mentioned on another thread, husband and I had confiscated his laptop and cell phone after his previous weekend visit with us, when SS informed us that he was not going to do any chores when we dropped him off at his home Sunday before last. Well, last Thursday, SS tells bio mom that husband told him he would get his electronics back that day and she wanted husband to call SS and let him know if that was the case or not. (she knew that was not the case, she was right there when husband talked to him!) So husband calls him and tells him he did not say that SS was getting the stuff back on Thursday, and SS flipped out and said he heard him say he was getting them back Thursday, screamed at husband and called him a liar and an idiot, and proceeded to melt down. He was delusional, as always, absolutely convinced that husband told him he was getting the stuff back Thursday and swearing he heard husband say it! husband got off the phone with him and told bio mom if he gets violent, to call the police. Well SS started screaming he was going to kill himself if we didn't bring back the electronics, and was stomping up and down in his room and throwing stuff and then he came downstairs and started hitting bio mom, then ran into the kitchen and went for the knives. Bio mom and half brother restrained him, and they got all of the knives and hid them. Then SS runs out into the street with no shoes on screaming at the top of his lungs, so bio mom called the cops. They sent three officers to talk to SS. The cops did the drill sgt. routine, yelled in his face, made him do pushups, told him that he WILL do everything his mom tells him to do. Etc. They told him that if they have to come out again they will be taking him away. They actually wanted to take him that night, but bio mom wouldn't let them. She wanted to see if them coming out to talk to him scared him into changing his behavior. What she doesn't seem to understand is that he is more than just a spoiled, acting out, defiant child. (which is all the cops thought he was, even though she told the cops he is bipolar) He is mentally ill and there is a lot of his behavior that he cannot control until he gets the proper treatment, and the cops trying to put the fear of God into him isn't going to work for long. Since the police visit, he is already not doing what he is told, and staying on the laptop for increasing periods of time and getting angry when bio mom tells him that he needs to get off it for a while and take a break and do his homework and his chores. So it is just a matter of time before another incident. We met bio mom and SS at his psychiatrist appointment. this past Saturday, and the psychiatrist was filled in about the incident with the police and gave SS another lecture, telling him that hitting his mom is domestic violence and a crime and that they will have to take him away the next time and put him in foster care or juvenile detention. SS wasn't really even listening to the psychiatrist. Just kept staring into space. And as soon as the appointment was over, SS asked husband if he was getting his laptop back. We told him it was up to bio mom and bio mom said he could have it but could only be on it for very limited periods. husband and I think that is a huge mistake...We tried to talk her into letting us keep it, but she believes that the cops scared him enough that he will "be good now." Anyway, we are just sitting on pins and needles waiting for the phone call that we know is coming this week when SS flips out again...and I am dreading the weekend with him, because we are not going to allow the electronics to come with him. If he melts down with us, he is not coming back here.....Thanks for listening to me vent today....this is so stressful to deal with!