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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 283959" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>Honestly once you let them live their own lives, they do stop depending so much on you. It really doesnt matter what he does in his own life because it isnt your life. If he chooses to smoke pot and be in trouble with the law...well, its his choice. You dont have to partake in that part of his life. You can still love him. I have problems saying you can still talk to him and have him over for dinner because he seems to be able to manipulate you easily. </p><p></p><p>For the moment I think I would love him from afar. </p><p></p><p>Nothing got better with my son until we showed a bit of tough love. Now, I dont deal with anything to do with his legal entanglements. Well, I guess I shouldnt say that. I am standing behind him in this eviction debacle but he is not at fault in this. I dont think there is anything wrong in a parent being on their kids side in matters that they are in the right on. I would be so telling him he was wrong if he had failed to pay rent and telling him the man had every right to evict him.</p><p></p><p>I never thought Cory could do half the things he has managed to do but when push came to shove, he did it because I didnt rush in to save him. You have to back off and let your son grow up. When he gets sick and tired of his meager existance he will do something to change it but only then. It wont happen because mom wants him to. He has to want to.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 283959, member: 1514"] Honestly once you let them live their own lives, they do stop depending so much on you. It really doesnt matter what he does in his own life because it isnt your life. If he chooses to smoke pot and be in trouble with the law...well, its his choice. You dont have to partake in that part of his life. You can still love him. I have problems saying you can still talk to him and have him over for dinner because he seems to be able to manipulate you easily. For the moment I think I would love him from afar. Nothing got better with my son until we showed a bit of tough love. Now, I dont deal with anything to do with his legal entanglements. Well, I guess I shouldnt say that. I am standing behind him in this eviction debacle but he is not at fault in this. I dont think there is anything wrong in a parent being on their kids side in matters that they are in the right on. I would be so telling him he was wrong if he had failed to pay rent and telling him the man had every right to evict him. I never thought Cory could do half the things he has managed to do but when push came to shove, he did it because I didnt rush in to save him. You have to back off and let your son grow up. When he gets sick and tired of his meager existance he will do something to change it but only then. It wont happen because mom wants him to. He has to want to. [/QUOTE]
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