klmno
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difficult child goes to an arraignment on Tues. He might be put in detention then due to his suspended sentence and these 2 recent charges. He's on suspension until then (coincidence, I'm sure 
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It's pretty difficult for us both to prepare for court and get a ton of school work done that they gave him for time on suspension and do community service (picking up garbage from public places for lack of better idea). And, I'm trying to spend a little time with him because I know he might not be here for over 5 mos- maybe even a year or so- and who knows if they will go back to the placement somewhere else (Residential Treatment Center (RTC)) or something. They looked into that before but found it would have to be out of state. I can only hope that they wouldn't (GAL wouldn't) call my bro and tell him they would consider him taking custody.
But still, I think the school is the biggest issue that is ongoing- it has been a problem for 3 years and will continue to be one- I am sure of that now- as long as he is in this sd. I know I could asked for an IEP meeting to review placement, but they tried last year to put him in a school for severe behavior problems that had less than 20% of students ever go back to mainstream. And, he hadn't exhibited the type of behavior at school that other kids who go to that school exhibit. And, from what I read, this is not a good idea for BiPolar (BP) kids, even if they exhibited that behavior. There are no private schools that I am aware of around here that work with kids with mood disorders - the regular private schools would only be the same as public school, I imagine, and maybe worse. If difficult child goes to detention, I want to file a complaint against the school. If he's not above the law, they aren't either.
If he doesn't go to detention, I cringe at the thought of him going back to that school Tues. pm or Wed. am. I really cringe- and wish there were a way to have someething else available. The middle school director of spec. ed says they will look into getting a specialist in mood disorders involved but that it is the repsonsibility of the principal to see that the IEP is appropriately implemented. Well, I know that, but since she hasn't made sure IDEA was followed in 2 years, I don't think she is going to now. And last year and this year, when I pushed the IEP issue they found a way to get difficult child out, at least for a while, but they tried for permanently out. They might have succeeded this time.
So what can I due? Mediation is not binding and if they don't follow the IEP, they won't follow that agreement. What would due process accomplish if now they are going to start filing criminal charges on top of suspending?
With the housing market the way it is and the house with a hole in a wall and door trim hanging off a couple of doors, how could I ever sell this house quickly? I couldn't I'm sure. I don't know why I thought maybe the higher ups at the sd would step in and force the school to comply with the law, but I had some hope there.
Thanks for being here. If any one has any suggestions, I'd love to hear them. Right now, I can't see a single light at the end of the tunnel. 
).It's pretty difficult for us both to prepare for court and get a ton of school work done that they gave him for time on suspension and do community service (picking up garbage from public places for lack of better idea). And, I'm trying to spend a little time with him because I know he might not be here for over 5 mos- maybe even a year or so- and who knows if they will go back to the placement somewhere else (Residential Treatment Center (RTC)) or something. They looked into that before but found it would have to be out of state. I can only hope that they wouldn't (GAL wouldn't) call my bro and tell him they would consider him taking custody.
But still, I think the school is the biggest issue that is ongoing- it has been a problem for 3 years and will continue to be one- I am sure of that now- as long as he is in this sd. I know I could asked for an IEP meeting to review placement, but they tried last year to put him in a school for severe behavior problems that had less than 20% of students ever go back to mainstream. And, he hadn't exhibited the type of behavior at school that other kids who go to that school exhibit. And, from what I read, this is not a good idea for BiPolar (BP) kids, even if they exhibited that behavior. There are no private schools that I am aware of around here that work with kids with mood disorders - the regular private schools would only be the same as public school, I imagine, and maybe worse. If difficult child goes to detention, I want to file a complaint against the school. If he's not above the law, they aren't either.
If he doesn't go to detention, I cringe at the thought of him going back to that school Tues. pm or Wed. am. I really cringe- and wish there were a way to have someething else available. The middle school director of spec. ed says they will look into getting a specialist in mood disorders involved but that it is the repsonsibility of the principal to see that the IEP is appropriately implemented. Well, I know that, but since she hasn't made sure IDEA was followed in 2 years, I don't think she is going to now. And last year and this year, when I pushed the IEP issue they found a way to get difficult child out, at least for a while, but they tried for permanently out. They might have succeeded this time.
So what can I due? Mediation is not binding and if they don't follow the IEP, they won't follow that agreement. What would due process accomplish if now they are going to start filing criminal charges on top of suspending?
With the housing market the way it is and the house with a hole in a wall and door trim hanging off a couple of doors, how could I ever sell this house quickly? I couldn't I'm sure. I don't know why I thought maybe the higher ups at the sd would step in and force the school to comply with the law, but I had some hope there.
Thanks for being here. If any one has any suggestions, I'd love to hear them. Right now, I can't see a single light at the end of the tunnel.
