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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 84051" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>The Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) - it's been long-term, but I think is getting worse gradually. It's really come to a head in the last few weeks, but I can look back and see this going back for miles.</p><p></p><p>The anxiety - husband did the survey on her this evening with me looking over his shoulder (I did difficult child 1 yesterday). And he put her down as having anxiety issues (but not so severe) years ago. The thing is, she always seemed to have it under control, mostly. At least, compared to the boys. But since talking to you guys since I joined this site I'm realising that a paranoid rattlesnake would seem calm compared to our boys...</p><p></p><p>Puberty/hormonal things - she never has had PMT the way her older sister has done. I never got PMT, ever. But she would get a bit more teary round about Day 1 or so. Teary is a good way to describe her especially lately. College has been really stressing her in the last few weeks, she's not coping with it because of the current subject. We talked about it a couple of weeks ago and she has an appointment to see the counsellor in ten days, when college returns from holidays. But the teariness has been long-term, since primary school (when she was 10, and younger). We don't have elementary & middle school here - we have 7 years of primary, which goes to the equivalent of halfway through middle school, then six years of high school, which goes beyond your high school and into college. HER college - it's a university alternative, more practically oriented. It's local (thank goodness) with a really effective counselling service. All she has to do is USE it - and she won't do anything, even stuff she WANTS to do, without me pushing her. She likes to perform, loves the money it brings in, but won't ring around to find work. I have to do that and lately I stopped. She's a good actress, a skilled stiltwalker, very popular locally but I need to let them know constantly that she is available. And frankly, at her age she should be doing this for herself. I think her NOT doing it for herself is another indication that t his goes way beyond ADD.</p><p></p><p>But I was talking about hormones - we considered that. She's been on the Pill for a few years (since BF1) and has felt that her prescription wasn't strong enough, so she's just had it changed. She's been on the new dose (slightly stronger) for three weeks and hasn't stopped spotting in that time; another reason to talk to the doctor. But this behaviour problem goes back to well before she ever went on the Pill - it's worse lately, but maybe because you guys have taught me to not accept things as they are. Also, she's 21 now, and what we could maybe forgive as immaturity, we no longer can accept. I don't think this is hormonal.</p><p></p><p>Basically, my tolerance for this has reached breaking point; she IS worse, but not a vast amount. But it's enough for me to say, "Enough! Time to deal with this!" Plus her current stress over college, which goes back at least six weeks (back to early July, actually, now I think of it) - she needs help. I just wish I knew where to start.</p><p></p><p>Thanks for all the ideas so far, keep 'em coming. husband will be reading them all too, when he gets to work in the morning. He may have his own observations about it all. I know he is concerned as well. Of course, as he would be.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 84051, member: 1991"] The Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) - it's been long-term, but I think is getting worse gradually. It's really come to a head in the last few weeks, but I can look back and see this going back for miles. The anxiety - husband did the survey on her this evening with me looking over his shoulder (I did difficult child 1 yesterday). And he put her down as having anxiety issues (but not so severe) years ago. The thing is, she always seemed to have it under control, mostly. At least, compared to the boys. But since talking to you guys since I joined this site I'm realising that a paranoid rattlesnake would seem calm compared to our boys... Puberty/hormonal things - she never has had PMT the way her older sister has done. I never got PMT, ever. But she would get a bit more teary round about Day 1 or so. Teary is a good way to describe her especially lately. College has been really stressing her in the last few weeks, she's not coping with it because of the current subject. We talked about it a couple of weeks ago and she has an appointment to see the counsellor in ten days, when college returns from holidays. But the teariness has been long-term, since primary school (when she was 10, and younger). We don't have elementary & middle school here - we have 7 years of primary, which goes to the equivalent of halfway through middle school, then six years of high school, which goes beyond your high school and into college. HER college - it's a university alternative, more practically oriented. It's local (thank goodness) with a really effective counselling service. All she has to do is USE it - and she won't do anything, even stuff she WANTS to do, without me pushing her. She likes to perform, loves the money it brings in, but won't ring around to find work. I have to do that and lately I stopped. She's a good actress, a skilled stiltwalker, very popular locally but I need to let them know constantly that she is available. And frankly, at her age she should be doing this for herself. I think her NOT doing it for herself is another indication that t his goes way beyond ADD. But I was talking about hormones - we considered that. She's been on the Pill for a few years (since BF1) and has felt that her prescription wasn't strong enough, so she's just had it changed. She's been on the new dose (slightly stronger) for three weeks and hasn't stopped spotting in that time; another reason to talk to the doctor. But this behaviour problem goes back to well before she ever went on the Pill - it's worse lately, but maybe because you guys have taught me to not accept things as they are. Also, she's 21 now, and what we could maybe forgive as immaturity, we no longer can accept. I don't think this is hormonal. Basically, my tolerance for this has reached breaking point; she IS worse, but not a vast amount. But it's enough for me to say, "Enough! Time to deal with this!" Plus her current stress over college, which goes back at least six weeks (back to early July, actually, now I think of it) - she needs help. I just wish I knew where to start. Thanks for all the ideas so far, keep 'em coming. husband will be reading them all too, when he gets to work in the morning. He may have his own observations about it all. I know he is concerned as well. Of course, as he would be. Marg [/QUOTE]
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