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<blockquote data-quote="linda lou" data-source="post: 226407" data-attributes="member: 5743"><p>I am learning how to deal with this issue also...just hearing from my son when he wants something, needs something, or thinks he is entitled to something (despite my financial situation).</p><p> </p><p>It is hard to say no, but after talking to many people, I realize and agree that I am 1) allowing him to treat me this way - disrespectful, uncaring, just contacting me for his own gain and 2) by 'helping' him, I am supporting his 'habit' of not being responsible for himself.</p><p> </p><p>Last year I was tricked into sending $450 to him when he went on a trip to Mexico without adequate funds. He said he was bit by a bat and had to go through the rabies shots. I kind of believed him, and since health was involved, I sent the funds. 1-1/4 years later I realized and confirmed that it was a lie and he needed money to stay in Mexico for a few more weeks. The money I sent funded his vacation. </p><p> </p><p>Handling it</p><p> 'right' may be a simple as saying, "I'm sorry, I can't help right now." "I'm sure you will figure this out."</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="linda lou, post: 226407, member: 5743"] I am learning how to deal with this issue also...just hearing from my son when he wants something, needs something, or thinks he is entitled to something (despite my financial situation). It is hard to say no, but after talking to many people, I realize and agree that I am 1) allowing him to treat me this way - disrespectful, uncaring, just contacting me for his own gain and 2) by 'helping' him, I am supporting his 'habit' of not being responsible for himself. Last year I was tricked into sending $450 to him when he went on a trip to Mexico without adequate funds. He said he was bit by a bat and had to go through the rabies shots. I kind of believed him, and since health was involved, I sent the funds. 1-1/4 years later I realized and confirmed that it was a lie and he needed money to stay in Mexico for a few more weeks. The money I sent funded his vacation. Handling it 'right' may be a simple as saying, "I'm sorry, I can't help right now." "I'm sure you will figure this out." [/QUOTE]
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