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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 558825" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>We had this problem with the two middle kids when they were about your son's age. Part of it with our kids, was lack of planning. They would be wiping (at least a bit) and get it on their fingers, so would immediately wipe it off on the walls. I dealt with that by handing the kids a scrubbing brush and making them scrub. When they said it wasn't them, I said it didn't matter who it was, I had to take a turn cleaning and I had done it many times. It was their turn now.</p><p></p><p>difficult child 1 would swat mosquitoes and smear the blood on the walls and ceiling (top bunk bed). He refused to clean it off, claiming that the bloody mozzie corpses would act as a deterrent. I asked him where mozzie brains were, that they would see a blood smear, recognise it for what it was, AND understand it as consequences for doing what they HAD to do anyway, in order to survive. I said, "How big is a mozzie's head? How many neurons are in there for them to think with?"</p><p>I do think it was more trophy counting for him, than mozzie deterrent. Yes, scrubbing brush time again.</p><p></p><p>When kids paint poo around the place, it does indicate a problem. I have a friend whose daughter (at age 8) had friends over who would leave little 'presents' in various places, such as the laundry hamper. When my friend tried to talk to the other kid's parents, they brushed the issue aside as being of no concern.</p><p></p><p>Some kids do this because they don't like touching that part of their body, or don't want to risk contamination. This might require a combination of strategies and education. We keep wet wipes beside the toilet, for example. We also have a bin for the soiled ones. We line the bin with plastic bags and empty them when needed, well before they get full or smelly. These days they're most often used for facial tissues and cotton buds. Having something like this for him to finish the clean-up, might help. have him do the sniff test on his hands after he has cleaned up AND washed his hands, will also help. If his hands smell clean, then he has successfully cleaned off any contamination. A nail brush may be needed to begin with. For nails, of course.</p><p></p><p>When a kid gets a sore tail from not cleaning properly, they can avoid wiping because it hurts. This makes the problem worse. The trick for this - use a wet wipe to clean up. Or a hand-held shower. After cleaning, apply a vegetable oil. Creams are too aqueous, they don't provide enough of a soothing barrier. The oil may need to be reapplied several times a day, but from the first application, the pain will ease. A good oil to use is coconut oil. Don't buy expensive stuff from the pharmacy, just get a block of copha and melt some into a jar to keep by the loo. Another jar in the shower area, get him to apply a small amount after bathing.</p><p></p><p>Another option, if he has trouble shifting stuff (from hands or tail) is to make up a salt scrub mix. You can also use sugar instead of salt, but I don't like anything that risks attracting ants. You put salt into a jar (plastic lid, not metal) and cover it with olive oil. Or almond oil, if you want to be extravagant. it's still cheap. I sometimes add a drop of essential oil at this stage - ti-tree oil is good for boys and men needing to clean out stubborn dirt.</p><p>To use - put a small amount (I keep a plastic ice cream spoon or pop stick in the jar) in your hands. Scrub your hands together. Rinse off. Pat dry on a cloth or paper towel. As you rinse, your hands feel gluggy and oily, but as you pat dry the cloth and paper take off the excess. The amount left on your skin is exactly what it needs. I use this mix after gardening. husband uses it after working in the garage and covering himself in black grease. If you shop around the expensive boutiques, you can find salt scrubs and sugar scrubs being promoted and sold for $50 a jar. You can make it for less than 50c.</p><p></p><p>I hope this helps.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 558825, member: 1991"] We had this problem with the two middle kids when they were about your son's age. Part of it with our kids, was lack of planning. They would be wiping (at least a bit) and get it on their fingers, so would immediately wipe it off on the walls. I dealt with that by handing the kids a scrubbing brush and making them scrub. When they said it wasn't them, I said it didn't matter who it was, I had to take a turn cleaning and I had done it many times. It was their turn now. difficult child 1 would swat mosquitoes and smear the blood on the walls and ceiling (top bunk bed). He refused to clean it off, claiming that the bloody mozzie corpses would act as a deterrent. I asked him where mozzie brains were, that they would see a blood smear, recognise it for what it was, AND understand it as consequences for doing what they HAD to do anyway, in order to survive. I said, "How big is a mozzie's head? How many neurons are in there for them to think with?" I do think it was more trophy counting for him, than mozzie deterrent. Yes, scrubbing brush time again. When kids paint poo around the place, it does indicate a problem. I have a friend whose daughter (at age 8) had friends over who would leave little 'presents' in various places, such as the laundry hamper. When my friend tried to talk to the other kid's parents, they brushed the issue aside as being of no concern. Some kids do this because they don't like touching that part of their body, or don't want to risk contamination. This might require a combination of strategies and education. We keep wet wipes beside the toilet, for example. We also have a bin for the soiled ones. We line the bin with plastic bags and empty them when needed, well before they get full or smelly. These days they're most often used for facial tissues and cotton buds. Having something like this for him to finish the clean-up, might help. have him do the sniff test on his hands after he has cleaned up AND washed his hands, will also help. If his hands smell clean, then he has successfully cleaned off any contamination. A nail brush may be needed to begin with. For nails, of course. When a kid gets a sore tail from not cleaning properly, they can avoid wiping because it hurts. This makes the problem worse. The trick for this - use a wet wipe to clean up. Or a hand-held shower. After cleaning, apply a vegetable oil. Creams are too aqueous, they don't provide enough of a soothing barrier. The oil may need to be reapplied several times a day, but from the first application, the pain will ease. A good oil to use is coconut oil. Don't buy expensive stuff from the pharmacy, just get a block of copha and melt some into a jar to keep by the loo. Another jar in the shower area, get him to apply a small amount after bathing. Another option, if he has trouble shifting stuff (from hands or tail) is to make up a salt scrub mix. You can also use sugar instead of salt, but I don't like anything that risks attracting ants. You put salt into a jar (plastic lid, not metal) and cover it with olive oil. Or almond oil, if you want to be extravagant. it's still cheap. I sometimes add a drop of essential oil at this stage - ti-tree oil is good for boys and men needing to clean out stubborn dirt. To use - put a small amount (I keep a plastic ice cream spoon or pop stick in the jar) in your hands. Scrub your hands together. Rinse off. Pat dry on a cloth or paper towel. As you rinse, your hands feel gluggy and oily, but as you pat dry the cloth and paper take off the excess. The amount left on your skin is exactly what it needs. I use this mix after gardening. husband uses it after working in the garage and covering himself in black grease. If you shop around the expensive boutiques, you can find salt scrubs and sugar scrubs being promoted and sold for $50 a jar. You can make it for less than 50c. I hope this helps. Marg [/QUOTE]
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