Today is the anniversary of my first date with husband. We typically take time every year on this day to go back to the restaurant where it all began -- kids in tow for the past 16 years and without of course before that. I'm recovering from bronchitis, but I felt that I could manage the short drive down to the beach for dinner and maybe even a ride across the harbor ferry and a stroll through the little downtown which the kids always seem to enjoy. I sent husband a text yesterday asking if we were still on to go down there this evening and he said sure, if I was up to it. Last night, husband gets home from his 90 min. commute and promptly heads for the bedroom to lay down and watch TV while playing Spider Solitaire. That's how he decompresses, I get that. After he ate dinner, I went up and asked if he'd watch a dvd with me -- it was a movie he got me for Xmas and since it's rated R, we can't very well watch it downstairs where the kids were hanging out. His response, "I thought we were going to [Indian casino] -- (wink, wink, big smile)," as he continued playing the computer game. I'm thinking, ARE YOU KIDDING ME?! But instead I calmly reminded him that I'm still coughing a lot and don't really have the energy for a 75 mile drive down there and back, much less hours sitting in a smoke-filled casino. He thought for a minute and nodded his head. So I asked if he would watch the movie again, telling him I thought he'd enjoy it because of the drama/action, etc. He declined and said he was going to go down to [Indian casino] because it was Friday night and he'd been cooped up home sick for the previous week and a half and wanted to get out of the house. Fine. So I put the movie on. He continued laying on the bed playing the computer game, but quickly got drawn into the movie and ended up watching the whole thing. Jump to this morning. He's getting dressed and tells me his sisters were going down to the parents' new place today to do some cleanup and he was "invited" to join them. Okay, so when are you going? Well, he didn't know yet he was waiting to get a text back from them. A few minutes later he says they're meeting down there around 2:30pm. Fine, so go down, help them out and then come back and we'll go to dinner at the beach like we planned. Well now he doesn't think that's a good idea and why don't we just go to a different restaurant for lunch today? Or go down to the beach tomorrow? As he's trying to orchestrate reasons why we shouldn't/can't go through with our plans, I'm trying to think why this sudden change and desire to go hang out with his sisters today -- he never goes to just "be" with them, there's always something going on. Then it hits me! They are all very likely going to the Indian casino after their little work party (it's just minutes from mother in law's place)! And husband doesn't have the balls to come out and say that to me, apparently. So he just left to get his hair cut and we agreed we could go to the beach tomorrow night after difficult child 1 gets home from camp. We'll see if it's actually able to happen. Meanwhile, I'm going to have consider my response if he does end up going gambling with his sisters tonight and why he wasn't forthcoming about it.