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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 225370" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Believer</p><p> </p><p>I don't feel I know you well enough yet to tell you what you should do. Instead, I'd tell you what I'd do.</p><p> </p><p>I'd call the doctor and the psychiatric hospital and see what orders have been written. Are you allowed to call, visit, and get updates on difficult child's condition. If not, can you at least send him a card or call and see if he's at least doing ok?</p><p> </p><p>At this point I would completely ignore ex and his new wife. Why? Because you have no control over their actions. And you already know ex enjoys mind games and manipulating and hurting you. Anything you do to acknowledge this is going to fuel his flames, so to speak.</p><p> </p><p>I think you'll feel better with the facts of how involved you're allowed to be. Because if ex is a mind gamer, difficult child may not have any restrictions on you at all, but ex may be leading you to believe it is so either by words or behavior for whatever motives he has. And I'm guessing ex is pretty darn good at the mind games.</p><p> </p><p>If it turns out difficult child has no restrictions on you visiting or being part of his therapy and you feel it would benefit him for you to be there.......well, if it were me, it would take heaven and earth to keep me away.</p><p> </p><p>This is all so much harder because difficult child is an adult. Some things we just have to accept because of that. If difficult child doesn't want you there (for whatever reason) and has put it down as such there really isn't anything you can do. It reeks, but that's the simple fact.</p><p> </p><p>So I'd see where I stand and then decide my next move. But as far as ex and his wife are concerned.......I wouldn't even acknowledge they exist if I had to. If it makes it easier......remember <strong><em>she </em></strong>has to live with him now, not you. lol </p><p> </p><p>I am so sorry for your hurting Mommy heart. There should not be all this senseless drama when someone is so hurt and angry they attempt to take their own life. </p><p> </p><p>I hope difficult child is able to find help while he's there.</p><p> </p><p>(((hugs)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 225370, member: 84"] Believer I don't feel I know you well enough yet to tell you what you should do. Instead, I'd tell you what I'd do. I'd call the doctor and the psychiatric hospital and see what orders have been written. Are you allowed to call, visit, and get updates on difficult child's condition. If not, can you at least send him a card or call and see if he's at least doing ok? At this point I would completely ignore ex and his new wife. Why? Because you have no control over their actions. And you already know ex enjoys mind games and manipulating and hurting you. Anything you do to acknowledge this is going to fuel his flames, so to speak. I think you'll feel better with the facts of how involved you're allowed to be. Because if ex is a mind gamer, difficult child may not have any restrictions on you at all, but ex may be leading you to believe it is so either by words or behavior for whatever motives he has. And I'm guessing ex is pretty darn good at the mind games. If it turns out difficult child has no restrictions on you visiting or being part of his therapy and you feel it would benefit him for you to be there.......well, if it were me, it would take heaven and earth to keep me away. This is all so much harder because difficult child is an adult. Some things we just have to accept because of that. If difficult child doesn't want you there (for whatever reason) and has put it down as such there really isn't anything you can do. It reeks, but that's the simple fact. So I'd see where I stand and then decide my next move. But as far as ex and his wife are concerned.......I wouldn't even acknowledge they exist if I had to. If it makes it easier......remember [B][I]she [/I][/B]has to live with him now, not you. lol I am so sorry for your hurting Mommy heart. There should not be all this senseless drama when someone is so hurt and angry they attempt to take their own life. I hope difficult child is able to find help while he's there. (((hugs))) [/QUOTE]
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