TerryJ2
Well-Known Member
difficult child's bmom didn't show up for the birthday party Sat. Her mother said she wasn't feeling well. Yeah, right. She's used that excuse b4. She has made it to roughly half of difficult child's birthday parties, and we only see one another at this time of the year. This, from someone who really made a big deal out of open adoption.
Her son, difficult child's 1/2 bro, didn't come, either. He was at his bio dad's house. Bio dad takes difficult child on weekends or something, and never answers his cell or home ph, and it infuriates bio grandma because they don't communicate. They had agreed to p/u the 1/2 bro for the party, but it just fell apart.
So, grandma came by herself.
We did get to talk, although most of her talking consisted of diagnosis-ing people from a distance when she has no idea who they are (one of my cousins' caregivers called during lunch, and I happened to mention it, since I had to leave the table) and grandma immediately said my cousin needs exercise, magnesium and doG-knows-what else.
Later, as we discussed difficult child's allergies, she continued to talk about how good X,Y and Z foods were, and then added, "Oh, but I guess he can't have those. Well, he needs liquid vitamins because they go straight into his system."
Like we didn't know that.
She talked about how stubborn her daughter is, (difficult child's bmom) and she just sticks to one thing and won't change her mind, as well as the 1/2 bro, and I thought, well, that certainly runs in the family! And she decided it was because they were not spiritual and were not connected to Jesus. She complained that her daughter is doing nothing to encourage her son or motivate him for school or a potential job, buys him any videos he wants (mostly violent) and won't listen to anything she says. She still complains that everything that goes wrong in her life is because of her mother's interference and bad advice.
I asked "how old is she?" and the grandma said, "32." I said, "Well, she's got to get over that."
What I didn't say was, "If I were 32, I'd be halfway across the country and not stuck under my mother's thumb any more, getting free day care and unwanted advice."
Then she went on to say that she is a "seer," and difficult child is a "messenger," and she's really into horoscopes, and people are just born the way they are, because it's all predestined.
So much for getting any family mental/medical history!
It's all becoming clear now ...
Her son, difficult child's 1/2 bro, didn't come, either. He was at his bio dad's house. Bio dad takes difficult child on weekends or something, and never answers his cell or home ph, and it infuriates bio grandma because they don't communicate. They had agreed to p/u the 1/2 bro for the party, but it just fell apart.
So, grandma came by herself.
We did get to talk, although most of her talking consisted of diagnosis-ing people from a distance when she has no idea who they are (one of my cousins' caregivers called during lunch, and I happened to mention it, since I had to leave the table) and grandma immediately said my cousin needs exercise, magnesium and doG-knows-what else.
Later, as we discussed difficult child's allergies, she continued to talk about how good X,Y and Z foods were, and then added, "Oh, but I guess he can't have those. Well, he needs liquid vitamins because they go straight into his system."
Like we didn't know that.
She talked about how stubborn her daughter is, (difficult child's bmom) and she just sticks to one thing and won't change her mind, as well as the 1/2 bro, and I thought, well, that certainly runs in the family! And she decided it was because they were not spiritual and were not connected to Jesus. She complained that her daughter is doing nothing to encourage her son or motivate him for school or a potential job, buys him any videos he wants (mostly violent) and won't listen to anything she says. She still complains that everything that goes wrong in her life is because of her mother's interference and bad advice.
I asked "how old is she?" and the grandma said, "32." I said, "Well, she's got to get over that."
What I didn't say was, "If I were 32, I'd be halfway across the country and not stuck under my mother's thumb any more, getting free day care and unwanted advice."
Then she went on to say that she is a "seer," and difficult child is a "messenger," and she's really into horoscopes, and people are just born the way they are, because it's all predestined.
So much for getting any family mental/medical history!
It's all becoming clear now ...
