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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 498501" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>Welcome. I am sorry you have to be here but we all understand and many of us are living the same story.</p><p></p><p>You can love your son to death, literally. Do you want to be living like this in 5 years or 10 years? that's what will happen if you continue to allow him to live in your house if he is using, irregardless of whether he does it in your home or elsewhere. You are not helping him by letting him live there and continue to mess up his life. You can't keep changing the rules on him. There should be one rule, he has to get help for his drug problem or leave your house. I don't say that lightly and it will probably be the hardest thing you will ever do but it may save his life. Don't say that until you mean it though.</p><p></p><p>I am curently reading a book that I am going to post about when I am finished, but I think you should read it. <em>Addict in the Family</em> by Beverly Conyers. I also suggest you go back to al-anon meetings so you can start taking care of yourself and learn how to detach with love.</p><p></p><p>DDD I first heard the term <em>Fake it until you make it</em> in our parents program at the rehab center. That is a term they drill into the addicts heads, "Act the way you want to be and soon you will become the way you act. " It also applies to us so well.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 498501, member: 59"] Welcome. I am sorry you have to be here but we all understand and many of us are living the same story. You can love your son to death, literally. Do you want to be living like this in 5 years or 10 years? that's what will happen if you continue to allow him to live in your house if he is using, irregardless of whether he does it in your home or elsewhere. You are not helping him by letting him live there and continue to mess up his life. You can't keep changing the rules on him. There should be one rule, he has to get help for his drug problem or leave your house. I don't say that lightly and it will probably be the hardest thing you will ever do but it may save his life. Don't say that until you mean it though. I am curently reading a book that I am going to post about when I am finished, but I think you should read it. [I]Addict in the Family[/I] by Beverly Conyers. I also suggest you go back to al-anon meetings so you can start taking care of yourself and learn how to detach with love. DDD I first heard the term [I]Fake it until you make it[/I] in our parents program at the rehab center. That is a term they drill into the addicts heads, "Act the way you want to be and soon you will become the way you act. " It also applies to us so well. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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