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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 221105" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>My grandson (now 18 and "choosing to live with GFGmom") is very much like Fran's boy. Unlike your daughter he had limited aggressive behavior that quickly abated once he was "secure" living with us at age 9. He is</p><p>a good looking kid who is mostly well groomed and VERY VERY EAGER to be</p><p>liked and have friends and have a girlfriend etc. He wants to be "normal" so badly that it is hard not to cry listening to him. He has "good friends" whose last name he doesn't know, and had his first girlfriend a few months ago who unfortunately is sexually promiscus (sp??) and did his best to hang on to her even though he "didn't like it". <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite5" alt=":confused:" title="Confused :confused:" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":confused:" /></p><p> </p><p>Your daughter has come a long way. After almost fifty years of parenting</p><p>and over 40 with a difficult child, I can't advise you on how to handle the issues.</p><p>Voc/Rehab sounds like a great program until you find out that they consider it a success if a client can learn to bag groceries. It is hard to make that prospect appealing to a kid who has struggled to get a diploma.</p><p>The vulnerability factor is HUGE but I am almost teary-eyed because I know what you can't force an adult difficult child to give up the only friend that is</p><p>available.</p><p> </p><p>Sometimes.......not always.........but sometimes.......I think it is much harder to parent a difficult child who has learned enough life skills & basic education to handle part of functioing independently. "Part" just doesn't hack it and it surely does not trigger sympathy and support from outsiders</p><p>at all. I'll add you to my prayers and hope things miraculously turn out.</p><p>DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 221105, member: 35"] My grandson (now 18 and "choosing to live with GFGmom") is very much like Fran's boy. Unlike your daughter he had limited aggressive behavior that quickly abated once he was "secure" living with us at age 9. He is a good looking kid who is mostly well groomed and VERY VERY EAGER to be liked and have friends and have a girlfriend etc. He wants to be "normal" so badly that it is hard not to cry listening to him. He has "good friends" whose last name he doesn't know, and had his first girlfriend a few months ago who unfortunately is sexually promiscus (sp??) and did his best to hang on to her even though he "didn't like it". :confused1: Your daughter has come a long way. After almost fifty years of parenting and over 40 with a difficult child, I can't advise you on how to handle the issues. Voc/Rehab sounds like a great program until you find out that they consider it a success if a client can learn to bag groceries. It is hard to make that prospect appealing to a kid who has struggled to get a diploma. The vulnerability factor is HUGE but I am almost teary-eyed because I know what you can't force an adult difficult child to give up the only friend that is available. Sometimes.......not always.........but sometimes.......I think it is much harder to parent a difficult child who has learned enough life skills & basic education to handle part of functioing independently. "Part" just doesn't hack it and it surely does not trigger sympathy and support from outsiders at all. I'll add you to my prayers and hope things miraculously turn out. DDD [/QUOTE]
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