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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 221310" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>I can't imagine letting my child starve. However, I can't imagine letting someone who has hit my child live with her. What a horrid, sad situation.</p><p> </p><p>One thing I would definitely suggest is give your a daughter a choice -- either apply for SSI and whatever else is available for her or expect no more help from you. This is something she truly needs whether she likes it or not. Help her get the SSI but don't let her get away with not applying. I really would make this a black and white thing.</p><p> </p><p>Any chance you can talk to the boy? Maybe something could be worked out that he agrees to stay away from the apartment when he is drinking? Make it a rule that there is no alcohol in the place and no one is to come into the apartment if they have been drinking. In exchange for this, you will agree to continue supplying food, etc. as you have in the past. However, if he breaks the agreement and if he ever hits your daughter again, you will personally take your child to the ER and police and see that charges are pressed. Most states nowadays don't let the victim have the option of pressing charges. If there are marks on the victim, the aggressor is charged. Who knows, he might really agree to this and might really do it. Just let him know he is welcome to stay with her so long as he is sober, but if he has a drink, he needs to crash somewhere else until all alcohol is out of his system. Just an idea.</p><p> </p><p>I hope you find a way to get your daughter the help she needs. I'm with you, though, I could never let my child go hungry for more than a very short period of time.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 221310, member: 3626"] I can't imagine letting my child starve. However, I can't imagine letting someone who has hit my child live with her. What a horrid, sad situation. One thing I would definitely suggest is give your a daughter a choice -- either apply for SSI and whatever else is available for her or expect no more help from you. This is something she truly needs whether she likes it or not. Help her get the SSI but don't let her get away with not applying. I really would make this a black and white thing. Any chance you can talk to the boy? Maybe something could be worked out that he agrees to stay away from the apartment when he is drinking? Make it a rule that there is no alcohol in the place and no one is to come into the apartment if they have been drinking. In exchange for this, you will agree to continue supplying food, etc. as you have in the past. However, if he breaks the agreement and if he ever hits your daughter again, you will personally take your child to the ER and police and see that charges are pressed. Most states nowadays don't let the victim have the option of pressing charges. If there are marks on the victim, the aggressor is charged. Who knows, he might really agree to this and might really do it. Just let him know he is welcome to stay with her so long as he is sober, but if he has a drink, he needs to crash somewhere else until all alcohol is out of his system. Just an idea. I hope you find a way to get your daughter the help she needs. I'm with you, though, I could never let my child go hungry for more than a very short period of time. [/QUOTE]
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