We are not bad parents: Through our journey’s we have all second guessed ourselves and our parenting skills. How is it that our children’s lives have become so unmanageable? Where did we go wrong? What should we have done? Surely this must be my fault, I didn’t love him/her enough, I loved him/her too much, I was too strict, I wasn’t strict enough. These questions and doubts can be endless. There are no easy or magic answers. We can play the woulda, coulda, shoulda game but in the end that will never change anything. All it produces is wasted energy on our part. We have no power over the past. We only have control over the present time we are in. Not one of us here is a perfect parent. We have all made mistakes, however, we all love our children and are heartbroken that their lives have spiraled out of control. Are there aspects of how our parenting affected our children in a negative way? Absolutely, but the same holds true in that there are many if not more positive things we did right. The truth is, we all did the best we could in raising our children. We loved them, we nurtured them, we taught them right from wrong, we afforded them opportunities, we stood by them, we bailed them out, we enabled them and we enabled them some more. Our children for reasons we may never fully understand have made choices to live their lives in a manner that we would not want for them. We have traversed the most difficult battlefield. We carry deep scars upon our hearts and mind that no one can see. We hide behind a mask of normalcy to those who cannot begin to understand what it is like for us to have a Difficult Child. For those who do not know what it is like to have a Difficult Child, they may have good intentions, their comments and “advice” can be cruel and cut like a knife. We are all at different points on this very difficult journey. What a blessing this site is for each one of us. For those that are new to this journey to those of us who have traveled this road for many years we come here to share, to support, to cry and to laugh, but most of all we come here because there is such comfort in knowing that we are not alone. We are not bad parents.