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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 638144" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Young men his age are in the military fighting or at college, living responsible lives and getting good grades. I don't think of eighteen as so young, maybe because my daughter is doing fine. Hard to say.</p><p></p><p>I agree with GM about the drugs, although I wouldn't have put it so pointedly. I think your son has more problems than just stealing. They steal for a reason and it is usually for ...that reason. I would not allow him in the house unless you want to possibly have illegal stuff in your home and have to lock up every valuable you have. We lived this way once and it is NOT fun. In the end we found what we didn't want to find...the drugs.</p><p></p><p>Please take good care of yourself and try to see your son as the young man he is today. It could save you a lot of grief in the end and could actually force him to grow up and not break the law. What you have done up until now has not worked. There is no reason to feel that doing the same thing is going to work.</p><p></p><p>I think you need to talk to him about drugs, if he wants to talk. If he says "Yeah, I smoke pot" push for more information. It sounds to me as if more is going on. If you know what the problem is, as awful as it may be, at least you know what direction to go in, such as a rehab. If you don't know why he is stealing, you can't even make a good suggestion that he can chew on. It hurts to know, but it is more dangerous not to know. by the way, only expect 1/3rd of the truth. But I'd try to get him to choke out why he feels the need to steal. Sounds like you are quite generous with him...and he can't be a dummy. Why would he keep stealing if not for drugs? Makes no sense. And why doesn't he want to work? And did he really hurt his back or did he plan on selling the medication, but got sidetracked. I know, I know. This all hurts. I don't mean for it too...you have to know though. You must find out.</p><p></p><p>Yes, yes, I know it hurts, but what you don't know will hurt you even more in the long run. What if drugs are found in your house? Are you responsible? We worried about that even when we thought it was only pot. The cops dropped over a few times and searched her room...</p><p></p><p>I send all this with so much compassion and love. Remember, we went through all this. The River of Denial did not help us.</p><p></p><p>Guide me, you know a lot about addiction. You need to think about drugs regarding your daughter too. I'm so sorry.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 638144, member: 1550"] Young men his age are in the military fighting or at college, living responsible lives and getting good grades. I don't think of eighteen as so young, maybe because my daughter is doing fine. Hard to say. I agree with GM about the drugs, although I wouldn't have put it so pointedly. I think your son has more problems than just stealing. They steal for a reason and it is usually for ...that reason. I would not allow him in the house unless you want to possibly have illegal stuff in your home and have to lock up every valuable you have. We lived this way once and it is NOT fun. In the end we found what we didn't want to find...the drugs. Please take good care of yourself and try to see your son as the young man he is today. It could save you a lot of grief in the end and could actually force him to grow up and not break the law. What you have done up until now has not worked. There is no reason to feel that doing the same thing is going to work. I think you need to talk to him about drugs, if he wants to talk. If he says "Yeah, I smoke pot" push for more information. It sounds to me as if more is going on. If you know what the problem is, as awful as it may be, at least you know what direction to go in, such as a rehab. If you don't know why he is stealing, you can't even make a good suggestion that he can chew on. It hurts to know, but it is more dangerous not to know. by the way, only expect 1/3rd of the truth. But I'd try to get him to choke out why he feels the need to steal. Sounds like you are quite generous with him...and he can't be a dummy. Why would he keep stealing if not for drugs? Makes no sense. And why doesn't he want to work? And did he really hurt his back or did he plan on selling the medication, but got sidetracked. I know, I know. This all hurts. I don't mean for it too...you have to know though. You must find out. Yes, yes, I know it hurts, but what you don't know will hurt you even more in the long run. What if drugs are found in your house? Are you responsible? We worried about that even when we thought it was only pot. The cops dropped over a few times and searched her room... I send all this with so much compassion and love. Remember, we went through all this. The River of Denial did not help us. Guide me, you know a lot about addiction. You need to think about drugs regarding your daughter too. I'm so sorry. [/QUOTE]
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