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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 638275" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>You can't protect him forever. Many adult kids have gone to college. My daughter sleeps in a dorm with three other girls. A few snore loudly. Oh, well. We can't always be comfortable. That's life.Some men your son's age are serving our country. He is old enough to put up with some inconveniences. The world will not cater to him.</p><p></p><p>Rules are also a fact of life. I'm guessing he'll find the rules the hardest, but he may use the ten-in-a-room if he thinks you may turn soft because of that. They su re learn how to get to us and we have to be strong.</p><p></p><p>None of my kids ever shared a room. They are too far apart in age or we had enough rooms.</p><p></p><p>Hang in there, Mom. You can't control the route he chooses to take. A lot of adult kids just don't want any rules and would rather live outdoors than have a curfew or not be allowed to use their drug of choice or alcohol all night long. And, in my opinion, we have to let them make their own decisions, whether we are afraid or not. This is about them, not us. Many of them are the way they are because we held too tight and didn't really want them to grow up, except in OUR way. And difficult children don't follow our ways. They do it their way. If there is one common thread about difficult children it is that they do not act within normal society. And it doesn't bother them to be different because they have the choice of conforming and pleasing us. They don't care. Too much advice from us and we often find ourselves being put on disregard. I think it's best to let them learn through natural consequences.</p><p></p><p>Wishing you the best of luck in this strange and uncomfortable walk.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 638275, member: 1550"] You can't protect him forever. Many adult kids have gone to college. My daughter sleeps in a dorm with three other girls. A few snore loudly. Oh, well. We can't always be comfortable. That's life.Some men your son's age are serving our country. He is old enough to put up with some inconveniences. The world will not cater to him. Rules are also a fact of life. I'm guessing he'll find the rules the hardest, but he may use the ten-in-a-room if he thinks you may turn soft because of that. They su re learn how to get to us and we have to be strong. None of my kids ever shared a room. They are too far apart in age or we had enough rooms. Hang in there, Mom. You can't control the route he chooses to take. A lot of adult kids just don't want any rules and would rather live outdoors than have a curfew or not be allowed to use their drug of choice or alcohol all night long. And, in my opinion, we have to let them make their own decisions, whether we are afraid or not. This is about them, not us. Many of them are the way they are because we held too tight and didn't really want them to grow up, except in OUR way. And difficult children don't follow our ways. They do it their way. If there is one common thread about difficult children it is that they do not act within normal society. And it doesn't bother them to be different because they have the choice of conforming and pleasing us. They don't care. Too much advice from us and we often find ourselves being put on disregard. I think it's best to let them learn through natural consequences. Wishing you the best of luck in this strange and uncomfortable walk. [/QUOTE]
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