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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 638285" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>You did great.</p><p></p><p>What do you think is going to happen if you don't hold his hand? It can't get much worse. Maybe he'll grow up.</p><p></p><p>If you don't trust that he can do things himself, he won't either. One thing I say to 36 when he presents me with a problem (which is often) is, "You're a smart man (I always say man) and I know you can figure out a solution without me." Sometimes that makes him hang up on me, but so what? At least he isn't looking at me to wipe his nose. I mean, I said that wrong. He is wanting me to wipe his nose, but I can't do that anymore. And some of his problems are difficult to solve, but this man, my son, is not a dummy. He can figure things out when he has to.</p><p></p><p>Your son can too. He figured out where to get money when he needed it and he knows how to manipulate you when he wants to. So does my son. So do most of our difficult children. They are, as a group, above average in intelligence. They are just whiners and don't like to grow up and want us to excuse all their heinous transgressions and to believe every word they say (although they have lied to us or betrayed us) and they do NOT want to work. I think a lot of that is drug related, but not always. Sometimes it is both. A very few of our difficult children use no drugs.They have personality glitches that make us need to, more than ever, stop being a mommy and turn into an adult mother to a man or woman.</p><p></p><p>Again, more wishes for luck; endless wishes for luck.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 638285, member: 1550"] You did great. What do you think is going to happen if you don't hold his hand? It can't get much worse. Maybe he'll grow up. If you don't trust that he can do things himself, he won't either. One thing I say to 36 when he presents me with a problem (which is often) is, "You're a smart man (I always say man) and I know you can figure out a solution without me." Sometimes that makes him hang up on me, but so what? At least he isn't looking at me to wipe his nose. I mean, I said that wrong. He is wanting me to wipe his nose, but I can't do that anymore. And some of his problems are difficult to solve, but this man, my son, is not a dummy. He can figure things out when he has to. Your son can too. He figured out where to get money when he needed it and he knows how to manipulate you when he wants to. So does my son. So do most of our difficult children. They are, as a group, above average in intelligence. They are just whiners and don't like to grow up and want us to excuse all their heinous transgressions and to believe every word they say (although they have lied to us or betrayed us) and they do NOT want to work. I think a lot of that is drug related, but not always. Sometimes it is both. A very few of our difficult children use no drugs.They have personality glitches that make us need to, more than ever, stop being a mommy and turn into an adult mother to a man or woman. Again, more wishes for luck; endless wishes for luck. [/QUOTE]
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