We met with-difficult child tonight. He seemed happy and well adjusted. We talked a bit and played a trivia game, Battle of the Sexes. It's a good idea to bring games because he's not the chatty type. He wants to come home but did not beg or make a scene, just stated it when he hugged us. Very calm. Gosh, if he were only like this all the time ... He said the Klonipin made him sleepy in the a.m. but it's only been 2 days so I signed a release to continue it. We meet with-the social wkr tomorrow at 3 p.m. to discuss a plan, and then visit difficult child again tomorrow night from 6-7. We won't get the results of the blood or psychiatric tests until Mon. or Tues. easy child didn't want to go because she was afraid she'd cry, but husband talked her into it because she's only allowed to visit on weekends, and she works tomorrow. We all did very well. When we left, difficult child didn't argue or stall, just walked across the hall to the common area where a nurse was putting in a video movie. He loves to watch movies (anything electronic, but they do not allow video games, for good reason). He remembered to wave through the window but didn't seem too upset that we were leaving, just a normal wave. He seemed so mature and calm and I was very proud of him. He gave husband the longest hugs coming and going ... I think he directly associates his hospital stay with-his fight with-husband and feels guilty. I really want to talk to him about it and explain that it's a pattern of behavior that we want to change, and not a punishment for blowing up with-husband. I know the staff has spoken to him, but I can see he feels a new connection with-husband and some of it is guilt driven. Of course, husband fed on that because he is so lonesome. Sigh. easy child, husband and I went to dinner afterward and husband got teary eyed at dinner. He's very lonesome and not handling this well. I actually feel really good about it. difficult child is safe and structured and calm. I spoke with-my friend, R, today, whose son, S, is aspie and ready to move out. She was full of helpful suggestions and very sympathetic. She was surprised that everything escalated so fast, but said it's a very good thing and we will get some answers. She agreed that an 11-yr-old shouldn't be so angry and anxious, and we should have a plan, both short- and long-term. She suggested occupational therapy, and a test for Fragile X. She has met difficult child and said when people find out that he spent a wk in the psychiatric unit, they will not be surprised. He's always been different, and of course, those very close to us know he has been violent and angry for a long time. She said people will be supportive. Some of that she is saying from experience, since her son has been through so much. husband and I agree we really don't care what label the hospital gives him, as long as it comes with-a plan. And, of course, that the plan works.