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<blockquote data-quote="dadside" data-source="post: 327966" data-attributes="member: 5707"><p>Because the issues have built over many years and now are well-established, I don't believe <em>anything external</em> will <em>make</em> him change behavior at least for more than long enough to exit whatever program. The best would be a program, or perhaps combination, that will break the physical drug addiction (relatively easy just takes a couple of months away from the drugs), get him to examine his life in a structured way, and point out tools/techniques to live more happily without drugs and the rest. That doesn't guarantee change, but does at least open eyes and point out new and better ways. In the end, it remains the individual's choice though.</p><p></p><p></p><p>There seem to be two basic routes to getting him in such a program/combination. You could do it privately at a cost easily exceeding $50,000 and likely over twice that. (His school might be persuaded to pay a portion of the cost, but that is another subject.) The alternative is involving the legal system as noted by others. The legal system may not offer the most appropriate facilities and programs, although it may be possible to exercise some choice, but it surely should have a lower financial cost to you. Also, I agree with the comments about seeking a dual-diagnosis facility.</p><p></p><p></p><p>If financing was not an issue, I know where I would suggest, and how to get him there and participating. In the end though, real change will come only when he realizes its value and pursues it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dadside, post: 327966, member: 5707"] Because the issues have built over many years and now are well-established, I don't believe [I]anything external[/I] will [I]make[/I] him change behavior at least for more than long enough to exit whatever program. The best would be a program, or perhaps combination, that will break the physical drug addiction (relatively easy just takes a couple of months away from the drugs), get him to examine his life in a structured way, and point out tools/techniques to live more happily without drugs and the rest. That doesn't guarantee change, but does at least open eyes and point out new and better ways. In the end, it remains the individual's choice though. There seem to be two basic routes to getting him in such a program/combination. You could do it privately at a cost easily exceeding $50,000 and likely over twice that. (His school might be persuaded to pay a portion of the cost, but that is another subject.) The alternative is involving the legal system as noted by others. The legal system may not offer the most appropriate facilities and programs, although it may be possible to exercise some choice, but it surely should have a lower financial cost to you. Also, I agree with the comments about seeking a dual-diagnosis facility. If financing was not an issue, I know where I would suggest, and how to get him there and participating. In the end though, real change will come only when he realizes its value and pursues it. [/QUOTE]
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