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<blockquote data-quote="phildjb" data-source="post: 328057" data-attributes="member: 8648"><p><span style="color: #2e2e2e"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">First, I would like to thank everyone for their advice. Then, I would like to explain everything just a little bit better.</span></span></p><p><span style="color: #2e2e2e"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">I met my husband when his son was seven, and when he told me about him I just thought that this poor child just need love and stability. He had been removed from his mother by my husband when he was just three months old, because of her own drug and alcohol abuse. After leaving he found out that she had been hiding her family's history of schizophrenia from him. Six months after I met my husband, his ex-wife died from a cocaine overdose. When we lived in Indiana the law was simple, if he made threats he was arrested. As we have found out here in Florida, if he is just out of control (i.e.. hitting walls, hitting doors, throwing things, breaking things, cursing us and calling us bad names, saying he is going to hit us, acting like he is going to hit us, and running away) they do not remove him from the house. And, they tell us that we can't refuse him entrance into the house because he is a minor and lives there and his belongings are there. The officer's have sympathized with us and each time a report is wrote up and we are given a case number. Twice, he has been Baker Acted by the Police, but twice the hospital has let him go because they say he is not a threat to himself or others, but this last time they diagnosed him with Conduct Disorder. </span></span></p><p><span style="color: #2e2e2e"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">I am trying to find out how to go about getting a hearing in front of the Judge, which is what one of the Police Officer's suggested to me, but I am the only one working and money is very tight. My husband is trying to find a job, but it is very difficult because of the back injury he suffered several years ago that left him with nerve damage and leg weakness.</span></span></p><p><span style="color: #2e2e2e"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">My husband and I did separate because of this issue for about a month, but the other children and we were very miserable. We are in agreement that we have had enough of his behavior and that we cannot tolerate it anymore. But, my husband's heart breaks at the thought of signing away custody of his only biological son. I understand his position on this, but I also understand that this is child is destroying our family.</span></span></p><p><span style="color: #2e2e2e"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">They only other family member in our entirely large family that is willing to have him live with her is his grandmother, who has been declared legally unfit to care for a child by the State of Florida.</span></span></p><p><span style="color: #2e2e2e"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">Sometimes it seems to me that we are all alone and that we must suffer the indulgences of this child until he is 18, at which time we will be freed from this emotional prison we are being held captive in.</span></span></p><p> </p><p> </p><p> </p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #2e2e2e"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">Also, I am still trying to learn what all the abbreviations ya'll use stand for.. Can someone help me with those too?</span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="phildjb, post: 328057, member: 8648"] [COLOR=#2e2e2e][FONT=Verdana]First, I would like to thank everyone for their advice. Then, I would like to explain everything just a little bit better.[/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#2e2e2e][FONT=Verdana]I met my husband when his son was seven, and when he told me about him I just thought that this poor child just need love and stability. He had been removed from his mother by my husband when he was just three months old, because of her own drug and alcohol abuse. After leaving he found out that she had been hiding her family's history of schizophrenia from him. Six months after I met my husband, his ex-wife died from a cocaine overdose. When we lived in Indiana the law was simple, if he made threats he was arrested. As we have found out here in Florida, if he is just out of control (i.e.. hitting walls, hitting doors, throwing things, breaking things, cursing us and calling us bad names, saying he is going to hit us, acting like he is going to hit us, and running away) they do not remove him from the house. And, they tell us that we can't refuse him entrance into the house because he is a minor and lives there and his belongings are there. The officer's have sympathized with us and each time a report is wrote up and we are given a case number. Twice, he has been Baker Acted by the Police, but twice the hospital has let him go because they say he is not a threat to himself or others, but this last time they diagnosed him with Conduct Disorder. [/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#2e2e2e][FONT=Verdana]I am trying to find out how to go about getting a hearing in front of the Judge, which is what one of the Police Officer's suggested to me, but I am the only one working and money is very tight. My husband is trying to find a job, but it is very difficult because of the back injury he suffered several years ago that left him with nerve damage and leg weakness.[/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#2e2e2e][FONT=Verdana]My husband and I did separate because of this issue for about a month, but the other children and we were very miserable. We are in agreement that we have had enough of his behavior and that we cannot tolerate it anymore. But, my husband's heart breaks at the thought of signing away custody of his only biological son. I understand his position on this, but I also understand that this is child is destroying our family.[/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#2e2e2e][FONT=Verdana]They only other family member in our entirely large family that is willing to have him live with her is his grandmother, who has been declared legally unfit to care for a child by the State of Florida.[/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#2e2e2e][FONT=Verdana]Sometimes it seems to me that we are all alone and that we must suffer the indulgences of this child until he is 18, at which time we will be freed from this emotional prison we are being held captive in.[/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#2e2e2e][FONT=Verdana] [/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#2e2e2e][FONT=Verdana] [/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#2e2e2e][FONT=Verdana] [/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#2e2e2e][FONT=Verdana] [/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#2e2e2e][FONT=Verdana]Also, I am still trying to learn what all the abbreviations ya'll use stand for.. Can someone help me with those too?[/FONT][/COLOR] [FONT=Calibri][SIZE=3][COLOR=#000000] [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [/QUOTE]
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