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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 394073" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>He is not allowed to go out of the County, Suz, without his PO's approval <strong>and </strong>his total fees paid. In fact there is a remaining amount due of over a grand that must be paid this month (she has said Dec. and she has also said Jan. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/nonono.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":nonono:" title="nonono :nonono:" data-shortname=":nonono:" />)</p><p>Obviously he has only been able to pay small payments over the past five years since he hasn't been able to work and as a result his birthday, Christmas money goes to probation and we fork over what is required. Now is not a good time for us to come up with the balance! But...guess what...<strong>if </strong>it is not paid by the deadline he will be violated and taken to jail. Once in jail he then (and only then) can ask for a long term payment schedule.</p><p> </p><p>In five years + he has not had a driving ticket, has not failed a drug test, has not missed one monthly appointment or the</p><p>occasional required home visits. He was arrested a few years ago for displaying behaviors of intoxication (you may recall he was kept for seven months in the local jail because the DA was hellbent on sending him to prison even tho he did not have anywhere near the points required to do so). A full neuropsycologial evaluation was done by the State which showed Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) damage etc. which combined with my presentation to the Court allowed him out and back for the duration of his probation period.</p><p> </p><p>So....husband and I want him to have his probation behind him and the opportunity for a fresh start IF he will go. He is not the self-confident young man he used to be. He has lots of friends and knows most everybody where we live. We are afraid he will decide to stay in his comfort zone of our small community. IF he does not take the opportunity for a fresh</p><p>start <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/sigh.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":sigh:" title="sigh :sigh:" data-shortname=":sigh:" /> we will have no choice but to cut him loose. There are a couple of nice local cops who have recently told him</p><p>"I hope you know that everyone knows your probation is almost over and they plan to watch you like a hawk!" easy child/difficult child</p><p>replied "I know that <strong>but </strong>if I don't do anything wrong it won't make any difference." husband and I know that he is being naive</p><p>and "they will get him" one way or another. It's truly sad. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 394073, member: 35"] He is not allowed to go out of the County, Suz, without his PO's approval [B]and [/B]his total fees paid. In fact there is a remaining amount due of over a grand that must be paid this month (she has said Dec. and she has also said Jan. :nonono:) Obviously he has only been able to pay small payments over the past five years since he hasn't been able to work and as a result his birthday, Christmas money goes to probation and we fork over what is required. Now is not a good time for us to come up with the balance! But...guess what...[B]if [/B]it is not paid by the deadline he will be violated and taken to jail. Once in jail he then (and only then) can ask for a long term payment schedule. In five years + he has not had a driving ticket, has not failed a drug test, has not missed one monthly appointment or the occasional required home visits. He was arrested a few years ago for displaying behaviors of intoxication (you may recall he was kept for seven months in the local jail because the DA was hellbent on sending him to prison even tho he did not have anywhere near the points required to do so). A full neuropsycologial evaluation was done by the State which showed Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) damage etc. which combined with my presentation to the Court allowed him out and back for the duration of his probation period. So....husband and I want him to have his probation behind him and the opportunity for a fresh start IF he will go. He is not the self-confident young man he used to be. He has lots of friends and knows most everybody where we live. We are afraid he will decide to stay in his comfort zone of our small community. IF he does not take the opportunity for a fresh start :sigh: we will have no choice but to cut him loose. There are a couple of nice local cops who have recently told him "I hope you know that everyone knows your probation is almost over and they plan to watch you like a hawk!" easy child/difficult child replied "I know that [B]but [/B]if I don't do anything wrong it won't make any difference." husband and I know that he is being naive and "they will get him" one way or another. It's truly sad. DDD [/QUOTE]
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