OpenWindow
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We have already talked to the state police and DHS, now I have to take difficult child and easy child 2 in to see an investigator with the Sheriff's Office on Monday. (We are being investigated because he was caught with my younger easy child in the pool touching her inappropriately.)
Neither of the first two investigators talked to difficult child. I thought that was a little odd, and so did difficult child's counselor, who made the report. I'm hoping that is why the third investigator is making us come in, to complete that part of the report. I hate that she is making easy child come in and talk again. So far, when anyone has tried to talk to her she just shuts down and doesn't say anything, or lies about what happened. I just want to get her counseling started, and quit trying to force her to talk, but we can't do that until the investigation is over.
I told difficult child he was going to have to talk to this investigator and he said he was going to tell them it was none of their business. I told him that was a good way to get himself in more trouble. He still was defiant and put all of his anger on me for telling on him.
The next morning I talked to difficult child again. This time he said he would talk to them. He told me that he hated himself for what he did, he can't believe he actually did it. He said he knows it won't happen again, because if it does he would kill himself.
This seems like a breakthrough, but I'm not sure it is. It's good that he talked about it a little more, but I'm not sure he really "felt" what he was saying. I still don't thing he really gets it, but he knows what he should be thinking.
I just hope that he's not defiant on Monday when he's talking to the investigator.
Neither of the first two investigators talked to difficult child. I thought that was a little odd, and so did difficult child's counselor, who made the report. I'm hoping that is why the third investigator is making us come in, to complete that part of the report. I hate that she is making easy child come in and talk again. So far, when anyone has tried to talk to her she just shuts down and doesn't say anything, or lies about what happened. I just want to get her counseling started, and quit trying to force her to talk, but we can't do that until the investigation is over.
I told difficult child he was going to have to talk to this investigator and he said he was going to tell them it was none of their business. I told him that was a good way to get himself in more trouble. He still was defiant and put all of his anger on me for telling on him.
The next morning I talked to difficult child again. This time he said he would talk to them. He told me that he hated himself for what he did, he can't believe he actually did it. He said he knows it won't happen again, because if it does he would kill himself.
This seems like a breakthrough, but I'm not sure it is. It's good that he talked about it a little more, but I'm not sure he really "felt" what he was saying. I still don't thing he really gets it, but he knows what he should be thinking.
I just hope that he's not defiant on Monday when he's talking to the investigator.