difficult child has been so full of himself lately. He refused to get up yesterday, insisted he had a stomachache. He got a hold of food at a friend's house that he wasn't supposed to eat and ... We try to get him up even if he's a bit sick, assuming he doesn't have a fever, because in Real Life, you can't call in sick every day. But then we risk an explosion. So it's always a tough call. I told him that if he didn't get up, he was grounded off TV, computer, etc., and from his friends all wk. Fine. He snuck into my ofc right under my nose (actually, behind my back) and stole back the DVD player he wasn't supposed to be watching. I lock my ofc when I'm not in it, and I locked it yesterday while I was in it, but somehow, Mr. Sneak did it again. Both husband and I asked where it was and difficult child shouted, in that authoritative, mean voice of his, "I don't KNOW!" He was mad at me for telling husband over the ph that difficult child hadn't studied for his science exam. He thinks that merely writing his lab notes down is studying. Not. I told husband because husband majored in biochem and can easily help difficult child study, plus, difficult child listens better to a man. Anyway, difficult child insisted that I lied and he had studied. husband came home and got difficult child to go downstairs and study, and do his homework (a friend brought it home), and while he was out of his rm, husband found the DVD player ... difficult child had been sitting on it! Great hiding place. I'll have to remember that one. husband went to bed at 9, and difficult child's bedtime is 9:30. NOT an option. That means I have to stay up as long as difficult child does, which is sometimes all night, even with-the Vistaryl he takes. (He was up at 1:30 last night but I think it was just to use the bathroom ... I jumped up as soon as the light went on and asked him what was going on. He was already back in bed and screamed, "Go away!" Sigh. He loves me. ) So to back up a bit, at 9:30 I sat down on difficult child's bed and asked him why he stole the DVD player and lied about it. He said, "You lied, too." "Don't change the subject." It went on like that until finally, in a calm voice, I said, "I know you stole it simply because you wanted to use it. But why did you feel you had to lie? Why couldn't you have asked to do something to earn it?" "Because you lied." So, it's payback. Supposedly. It's just a rationalization. I told him I did not lie and that when he came home with-an "A" on his science quiz, I would be more than happy to apologize for getting on his case. In thr meantime, I'm the mom, and he lied. The whole evening was like that, but I just saved the ending so you can get an idea. At any rate, his mattress is up against the wall of his rm, so we can vacuum and wash his wood floor, which is covered with-urine and various juices and stepped-on Halloween candies. I threw away 2 bags of trash, and put the toys in my closet. I left him his clothes and his books. We like to encourage reading. I hope I'm making the right choice and he doesn't rage and then tear them all up. We should buy stock in B&N, because we keep them in biz! Meanwhile, my 83-yr-old cousin is in a rehab nursing home and the staff is very inattentive. She is constantly in a urine-soaked bed, because she has a broken hip, and the pan overflows, and they are short-staffed and never come when she buzzes the nurses. Her Medicare coverage runs out in 3 days but she can contest it. She can't stand unassisted. I want to make sure she does not go home alone. I have a phone-conference set up with-the dr, a nurse, the soc. wkr, and my cousin at 10:45 Thurs. Our mtng with-difficult child's psychiatric to go over the test results is from 9-9:45. That gives me less than an hr to get back in town, get husband back to work, and disengage from difficult child's issues and get into cousin's issues and advocate for her. After all of that, I am having lunch with-a friend at an Italian restaurant to do editing. I warned him I may unload on him, and I will have wine. He said that was okay. What a guy! (He's the former military paratrooper who pulled difficult child out of bed last yr). Wish me luck!!!