We haven't seen my mother in law for almost 6 weeks...so we were looking forward to her afternoon visit. All went well...she brought nice goodies for the kids......only problem started when difficult child ate all his chocolate eggs at once and then started taking his little brothers....with some struggling.....then not wanting to listen to me when I told him to stop....so my stress started building up....together with the headache.... His Grandmom kept on giving all the hugs and attention to his little brother, this made him sad, bot obviously didnt show any emottion....he also, because of the Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) doesnt show his affection towards her...so its easy to not invest in a relationship with him.... He and his little brother then started playing at the pool and slippy sliding....so my difficult child tried to impress us with a move that made him fall and hurt his shoulder...so I said he must be carefull, he can brake his color bone....he misinterpreted it as critisism and gave me the middle finger infront of his grandmother...I said he must behave...this escalated...he became misrable...saying bad words here and there....By this time I felt like running away......! He later, when repremanted spit twice infront of him....my mother in law said this wasnt nice to do....when realizing she has hurt his feelings, she tried to make a joke...he turned around and became quiet.... I couldn't be myself anymore....I became withdrawn...my head felt like bursting....I still tried to be nice but by this time my voice was monotone...something I do automaticly to calm difficult child down.... She then said it was time for her to leave......I could see she also felt bad and when leaving said she is sorry she bothered us...she feels like a burden and as if she isnt welcome! Oh..no!!!! I told her my difficult child behaviour is stressfull to me...she just said agh it will pass..... Me and hubby havent told her that difficult child was diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) and the rest...we think he needs to tell phone her and tell her what's going on??!!! We are just so afraid of being told again that its nothing, will pass soon, or that they will gossip about how bad parents we are and its because we have been spoiling him when he was young! The whole family will know about this juicy story within 30 minutes!