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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 521359" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>Jumping in with a few ideas in no particular order:</p><p></p><p><strong>Dresses:</strong></p><p>A champagne or gold-coloured dress sounds lovely. You should check with the Groom's mother as to what she plans to wear, just so that you don't clash with each other. You don't have to coordinate, unless you want to. As for the length of your dress, it should be suitable to the formality of the occasion. It's easier to gauge formality by what the Groom is wearing, since there are fewer options in men's clothing. Here's a quick primer:</p><p></p><p>If the Groom wears a suit, then a cocktail-length dress (just below the knee) is fine.</p><p>If the Groom wears a dinner suit (tuxedo), then a tea-length dress (mid-calf length) is suitable.</p><p>If the Groom is wearing a morning suit (grey coat with tails, pinstripe trousers) or white tie (black coat with tails, for evening weddings) then a full-length gown is expected.</p><p></p><p>Sounds like you'll be fine with a mid-length dress. I like a dress-and-lightweight-jacket combination, because you can convert your outfit from day to evening without having to change dresses.</p><p></p><p><strong>Venue:</strong></p><p>How comfortable are you with E's mother? Since it's at her house she probably would like some input as to the structure of the event. If you deliver the information as "This is what difficult child would like", and perhaps enlist E's help in talking to his mother, you won't come across as controlling.</p><p></p><p><strong>Bridal Shower:</strong></p><p>I would let it go. If the auntie wants to host a separate event, let her. Just don't get roped into planning any of it or doing any of the work for it. It's not your party, after all.</p><p></p><p><strong>Groom's family contribution:</strong></p><p>Traditionally the bride's family covers the cost of the wedding. Of course, that tradition dates back to the days when a blushing bride of 17 or 18 was being married from her parents' house. It has become much more common for the groom's family to contribute where possible. Often, they cover the cost of the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner afterward. With older couples, they often cover as much of the costs as possible themselves, since they're already independent. This might be something where you talk to difficult child about your budget, E talks to his parents about their budget, and you figure out what's possible when you know the total dollar amount available.</p><p></p><p><strong>Attendant clothes:</strong></p><p>Yes, the attendants are supposed to cover the cost of their clothing. This assumes that the Bride and Groom haven't chosen something outrageously expensive for them to wear.</p><p></p><p><strong>Guest list:</strong></p><p>Maybe you can limit the numbers based on closeness of relation. So, brothers and sisters of parents and their children, but not cousins of parents unless you're close and they're close to difficult child. As for work acquaintances, I don't think it's necessary to invite them, especially if you don't socialize with them outside of work otherwise. People who are in established relationships should be invited together, but if you're concerned about numbers, then singles should be invited as singles rather than being able to invite guests. If you run the risk of offending family members by excluding them from the ceremony it might be worth choosing a different venue that can accommodate a larger number of people.</p><p></p><p>Just my top-of-the-head thoughts. Cherry pick whatever makes sense.</p><p></p><p>This is so exciting.</p><p>Trinity</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 521359, member: 3907"] Jumping in with a few ideas in no particular order: [B]Dresses:[/B] A champagne or gold-coloured dress sounds lovely. You should check with the Groom's mother as to what she plans to wear, just so that you don't clash with each other. You don't have to coordinate, unless you want to. As for the length of your dress, it should be suitable to the formality of the occasion. It's easier to gauge formality by what the Groom is wearing, since there are fewer options in men's clothing. Here's a quick primer: If the Groom wears a suit, then a cocktail-length dress (just below the knee) is fine. If the Groom wears a dinner suit (tuxedo), then a tea-length dress (mid-calf length) is suitable. If the Groom is wearing a morning suit (grey coat with tails, pinstripe trousers) or white tie (black coat with tails, for evening weddings) then a full-length gown is expected. Sounds like you'll be fine with a mid-length dress. I like a dress-and-lightweight-jacket combination, because you can convert your outfit from day to evening without having to change dresses. [B]Venue:[/B] How comfortable are you with E's mother? Since it's at her house she probably would like some input as to the structure of the event. If you deliver the information as "This is what difficult child would like", and perhaps enlist E's help in talking to his mother, you won't come across as controlling. [B]Bridal Shower:[/B] I would let it go. If the auntie wants to host a separate event, let her. Just don't get roped into planning any of it or doing any of the work for it. It's not your party, after all. [B]Groom's family contribution:[/B] Traditionally the bride's family covers the cost of the wedding. Of course, that tradition dates back to the days when a blushing bride of 17 or 18 was being married from her parents' house. It has become much more common for the groom's family to contribute where possible. Often, they cover the cost of the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner afterward. With older couples, they often cover as much of the costs as possible themselves, since they're already independent. This might be something where you talk to difficult child about your budget, E talks to his parents about their budget, and you figure out what's possible when you know the total dollar amount available. [B]Attendant clothes:[/B] Yes, the attendants are supposed to cover the cost of their clothing. This assumes that the Bride and Groom haven't chosen something outrageously expensive for them to wear. [B]Guest list:[/B] Maybe you can limit the numbers based on closeness of relation. So, brothers and sisters of parents and their children, but not cousins of parents unless you're close and they're close to difficult child. As for work acquaintances, I don't think it's necessary to invite them, especially if you don't socialize with them outside of work otherwise. People who are in established relationships should be invited together, but if you're concerned about numbers, then singles should be invited as singles rather than being able to invite guests. If you run the risk of offending family members by excluding them from the ceremony it might be worth choosing a different venue that can accommodate a larger number of people. Just my top-of-the-head thoughts. Cherry pick whatever makes sense. This is so exciting. Trinity [/QUOTE]
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