How would you handle a wedding reception with young children? My oldest is getting married. My future daughter in law believes that only my oldest are attending, they are 22 and 16. The kids in question are 10,will just be 9 and just be 4. They are all difficult child's in one way or another. I am trying to be reasonable and not freak out because it is her day and all but I never heard of the siblings of the couple not invited to the wedding reception. My husband finally spoke up and I received a terse reply that it is ok if they come but can I just let her know how many will be coming as space is limited. Previous to this I was asked if there was anyone we wanted to invite as there was extra space. We are not paying for this wedding but have contributed $2,000.00 towards it although I don't believe that should matter. Anyway, the pain this has caused me is deep and I was just wondering if any of you thought that it is reasonable to not have the siblings there. It is complicated by the fact that the excluded kids would be all of my adopted kids....except A who is a flower girl in the wedding but also not invited to the reception. It is also maddening to me when I found out that the other flower girl(a cousin of the bride) is invited to all. I am thinking that I will take all but the 4 yos, I would have liked to take them as well and just have them taken away when they got antsy (which they will because it will be their nap time), but in this environment I'm thinking it is best they don't show up at the reception at all...they won't really know what they are missing but the others will. And I expect to smile through this day and put on the show of my life.