Shari
IsItFridayYet?
Wee difficult child is starting to consistently challenge me again. As of now, its just verbal, but this is usually a precursor to more physical stuff, if history repeats itself.
This morning, he yelled at me to get him some milk. The milk carton is over half empty, and the dishes are in the rack on the counter, which means he can reach a cup and do this himself, so I replied that he could handle it.
He immediately shouts back that I'm mean. I ignored him.
Later, I told him he needed to get ready for school. He asked if I was going to get his milk. I said not right now, I was getting ready for work and he's a big boy, he could get it himself. And I surely wouldn't do it if he wasn't ready for school. Again, he yelled that I was mean and began spitting on me and throwing things in the living room.
I said "you're right. I am mean." This infuriated him. He started sobbing, huge sad sobs, told me not to say that, screamed at me angrily, then immediately apologized, crying huge sad sobs again...
He finally calmed down and got dressed and came back thru the kitchen. I happened to be standing by the sink, so I handed him a glass, and he got his milk. He hit his head on the fridge. For a kid with his level of pain tolerance, normally he wouldn't even have noticed, but today, he was bawling in an instant and ran to daddy for comfort (obviously more going on than pain there).
He calmed down again and went to his room and laid on his bed. Then he ordered me (still in the kitchen) to get his socks. I said no. The mean mom routine again, spitting, throwing things started. I ignored it.
Meanwhile, I'm thinking that this has gone on for more than a few days now and will probably escalate soon to things I can't ignore (hitting, breaking things - safety concerns for me and him). Any suggestions what more I can do before we get to that point?
Amazingly, once shoes and socks were on, we made it to school without incident, tho I'm questioning whether it was a good idea to send him...
This morning, he yelled at me to get him some milk. The milk carton is over half empty, and the dishes are in the rack on the counter, which means he can reach a cup and do this himself, so I replied that he could handle it.
He immediately shouts back that I'm mean. I ignored him.
Later, I told him he needed to get ready for school. He asked if I was going to get his milk. I said not right now, I was getting ready for work and he's a big boy, he could get it himself. And I surely wouldn't do it if he wasn't ready for school. Again, he yelled that I was mean and began spitting on me and throwing things in the living room.
I said "you're right. I am mean." This infuriated him. He started sobbing, huge sad sobs, told me not to say that, screamed at me angrily, then immediately apologized, crying huge sad sobs again...
He finally calmed down and got dressed and came back thru the kitchen. I happened to be standing by the sink, so I handed him a glass, and he got his milk. He hit his head on the fridge. For a kid with his level of pain tolerance, normally he wouldn't even have noticed, but today, he was bawling in an instant and ran to daddy for comfort (obviously more going on than pain there).
He calmed down again and went to his room and laid on his bed. Then he ordered me (still in the kitchen) to get his socks. I said no. The mean mom routine again, spitting, throwing things started. I ignored it.
Meanwhile, I'm thinking that this has gone on for more than a few days now and will probably escalate soon to things I can't ignore (hitting, breaking things - safety concerns for me and him). Any suggestions what more I can do before we get to that point?
Amazingly, once shoes and socks were on, we made it to school without incident, tho I'm questioning whether it was a good idea to send him...